This will take a bit of background to build to the main point..but it’s worth it, I promise. Just stick with me on this, Clones.
One of the many, many talking points put out by those who defend the LA condom mandate law is that since people — especially young people — look to porn as their only means of “sex education, and copy what they see in these videos, only showing condomized sex on screen or online will motivate them to use condoms in real life…and thusly, sexually transmitted diseases and infections will disappear, and global peace will reign supreme.
All that is fine and good….and promoting condom usage amongst the general public as a means of protection against both unwanted pregnancy AND STI’s is NOT a bad thing at all.
However..since condoms aren’t produced out of thin air, but made by corporations who exist first and foremost to make a profit, the inevitable question arises of: “What about the QUALITY of the condoms being issued to the general public? Are they of the top of the line, or are they merely the rejects and scrubs of the condom companies while the good, high-quality stuff remains on a store counter to be sold for an arm and a leg?”
That is not a unimportant question, because it’s the general public, and especially the poor and working class folk, who bear the worst burden of HIV and other STI infections, as well as the greatest risks…and if you are going to tell everyone that condoms are the best defense, you damn well had better insure that that defense isn’t corrupted or compromised.
Because if you slip that shit up, stuff like what happened in South Africa last week is bound to result.
This is what happens when quality control is pushed under the bus and dragged behind at expressway speed:
Some condoms burst. Others leaked like sieves. South Africa’s leading anti-AIDS group said Tuesday that allegedly faulty condoms are among more than 1.35 million handed out at the African National Congress’ 100th birthday party.
Health officials confirmed that all of those condoms have been ordered to be recalled. But the Treatment Action Campaign said no warning has been issued to people that they may have carried away defective condoms that could now cause them to unsuspectingly spread or contract HIV. South Africa has the world’s highest number of AIDS patients, some 5.6 million.
The third recall in less than five years raises questions about the quality of some of the 425 million-plus condoms that the government gives away each year, and the competence of the South African Bureau of Standards that is supposed to ensure their quality is up to international standards.
AIDS activist Sello Mokhalipi of the Treatment Action Campaign said he complained to the health department after “we had people flocking in, coming to report that the condoms had burst while they were having sex.”
Some were panicking because they were infected with AIDS and were concerned for their partners, he said.
Spokesman Jabu Mbalula of the Free State provincial health department, which distributed the condoms before the Jan. 6-8 celebrations, said they had recalled the entire batch of 1.35 million condoms around Jan. 18. He said there was no need for a panic.
But he was unable to say how many of the condoms were used or have been recovered.
In 2007, the government recalled more than 20 million defective condoms manufactured locally but recovered only 12 million. The Health Ministry said many of the condoms failed the air burst test.
That came after a recall the same year of 5 million defective and locally produced condoms. In that case, the Ministry of Health said a testing manager at the South African Bureau of Standards had taken a bribe to certify the faulty contraceptives.
Now, the article does not state whether the Republic of South Africa manufactures their own condoms, or whether they outsource them from a private manufacturer, but they do state that their Bureau of Standards is supposed to insure that whatever is distributed to the public meets their quality standards. Apparently, they either looked the other way because they were willing to prove their main point, or they just slipped up on the job.
What does that have to do with the condom mandate law in LA, you ask??
Well…it’s an open secret that the major condom companies here in the US (Lifestyles, Durex, Trojan, et. al.) would just love to tap into the “pro condom”/”safer sex” mood for their own financial advantages. Remember that it was Lifestyles employees who were recruited as “protestors” to follow AIDS Healthcare Foundation president Michael Weinstein’s “protests” against HUSTLER and other companies for not banishing bareback sex vids and wrapping their dicks. I would think that such companies would make a nice killing (no pun intended) from scoring exclusive sponsorships or deals with porn companies forced into condom-only vids in order to promote the “safer sex” memes in the larger public. Imagine “Announcing, the 2014 AVN Awards….Brought To You Byyyyyyyy…..DUREX CONDOMS!!!!!!” Or, better yet, imagine you favorite porn starlet sprouting a Trojan necklace and getting paid an endorsement fee for insisting on wrapping up her male partners. Kinda like the decals on the NASCAR racing cars, or the walking ads on World Cup soccer players, except sexier.
The problem with all that, though, is that most poor folk simply can’t afford to buy condoms off the shelf…especially not the top-of-the-line, quality stuff. So, they must go to the local clinic to get their protection…and while condoms there are indeed free, something tells me that they are also not quite so high on the quality factor. I mean, what’s to say that the condom companies don’t just dump their second- or even third-hand product on medical clinics to give to “the poor” while hoarding their quality stuff to sell for maximum profit?? It’s not as if food stores and major retailer chains don’t set the precedent of dumping their excess, close to shelf date product onto food shelters, right??
Do you now see the recipe for disaster here, gangstas and gangstrices?? Imagine if the condom law goes nationwide, thanks to the efforts of AHF and OSHA. Now, imagine AHF and Lifestyles getting a sweetheart deal with the city of LA and a major porn producing company (let’s use VIVID for an example) to put out “FREE CONDOMS!!!!!” to all citizens of that metropolis as a means of promoting “safer sex”. Now, imagine Lifestyles simply dumping its lower quality, excess product onto the streets of LA, using AHF perps to pass out the rubbers to the public.
And now, imagine one or two or five or fifty cases of condoms breaking during use, and as a result, someone gets infected with HIV. Or worse, a performer gets infected during a shoot because he/she didn’t know that the partner was infected but had to do the scene anyway…and the condom accidentally shatters during the main event.
Gee…I wonder how Mike Weinstein will react to THAT.
More importantly, how will this play in the minds of sexual reactionaries who will insist all along that condoms are simply another evil “sex pozzie” attempt to provide false protection for sexual depravity of the privileged wealthy at the expense of the poor, who are merely guniea pigs and cash cows for the “sexual elite”??
The very same arguments, BTW, are being used to slander Planned Parenthood, ACORN, and every other progressive service org delivered to the poor and working class without the approval of the Religious Right.
Sexual Puritanism coming from the Religious Right is usually easy to spot and dispatch.
When it comes from people calling themselves leftists and “socialists” on the other hand, it may sound a bit more confusing, but it is no less ridiculous.
But, sexual Puritanism from the Left doesn’t get much idiotic than what I saw today.
A group of supposed “socialist” activists who call themselves “The Activists” decided to use today to vent their spleen about what they see as the evil “commodification” of sexuality under capitalism. Actually, it wasn’t quite “today”, the posts were actually released to their blog last December, but they decided to revert to them today in response to some Twitter chatter.
The subject of the first post was actress/model/haute couture stylist Dita Von Tesse, who recently published a book that highlighted her career as a groundbreaking burlesque dancer. Today, she was the subject of a not-so-friendly fisking by a woman named Maggie Alderson of a blog called “Style Notes” in which Alderson panned Ms. Von Tesse for her choice of high-heel shoes. The trigger was this photo of Dita leaving some building or another:
While most of Alderson’s post dealt specifically with Von Tesse’s stylistic faults, she did manage to get in some general smack against the “burlesque” look in her opening paragraph:
I’ve never thought of Dita von Teese as a bastion of women’s rights. In fact I’m proudly old school feminist about the whole ‘burlesque’ revival. I hate it. It’s just a fancy name for striptease, which encourages the acceptance of looking at women as objects. I don’t accept it as ‘stylish’.
In fact I’m convinced the whole thing is part of a New World Order global conspiracy of Stepford Wives fundamentalists (a word which, I now realise, spookily contains the sub words ‘men’ and ‘mental’…), who are also behind the current trend for young women to wear more make up and hairspray than a young Priscilla Presley (below) and higher heels than a trannie hooker.
Ah, yes…a nice mix of slut shaming, class resentment, and some trans-hate to boot.
But, at least even Maggie Alderson gives Dita some bit of credit later on for her later stylistic transformations.
The folks at The Activists, on the other hand? Not so much. To them, Dita Von Tesse represents the absolute worst of what capitalism does to women’s sexuality…and they use a “review” of her book to stick the knife in her back. And braless front.
Dita Von Teese claims to symbolize beauty but in reality she symbolizes nothing but her inner weakness and the objectification of women. She really is pathetic in the way that she turns women into sellers of nakedness and industrialized sexuality.
Now, the writer of that particular essay claims that she isn’t really judging Dita personally, she only reacted after reading her book. But oh, does she react.
A big mistake! It was the worst book ever written. She just went on and on about meaningless events from her childhood. Then she said that at 13 she could not work in a Pizza joint forever, and wanted to take up glamorous prostitution.
I have nothing against prostitutes, but I will be honest and say that they are the byproduct of an oppressive economical system. At the height of socialism, the system was able to wipe out prostitution. Prostitution is the result of the extreme objectification of women, money and stuff.
Many women actually become prostitutes to afford luxurious goods that Dita pushes really hard. Dita is a coward, because she hides behind her skin. She has the most banal empty look in her eyes. She does not care about the rights of women, but the devaluation of humanity, the reduction of human skin to a commodity that can be sold for display.
Let’s forget about the basic fact that prostitution and other forms of sex work still managed to exist in socialist/communist nations like the former Soviet Union and Cuba (and also “social democratic” countries such as The Netherlands, too), and focus on the author’s shelling of Von Tesse as “hiding behind her skin” and “not caring about the rights of women” merely because she happens to be beautiful and attractive enough to make money and show off her attractive figure with alluring clothes and makeup. Never mind the fact that most women can easily buy cheap markups of makeup and clothing at a fraction of the cost of what Dita can afford to pay for her beauty and look pretty hawt themselves. And never mind the fact that one of the principles of feminism is that beauty is far more than skin deep, and that if you don’t have the hourglass body of Marilyn Monroe, Jennifer Aniston, or Jenna Jameson, you can still make something of yourself with your brains and your wile. See Hillary Clinton, or Sarah Palin, or Michelle Bachmann (who is not exactly devoid of either makeup or the attractive figure.) To whomever manufactured that post, such an idea is nothing more than the evil capitalist machine grinding you down to squeeze more money out of you for its own profits, and only total detachment from such standards of consumption and beauty will liberate the working class from its daze and bring forth “the revolution”.
Even lovelier is how the author closes out her rant on Dita:
The beauty of a woman is not about lipstick or nipple pasties you idiot, the beauty of a woman is about being able to realize and fulfill her humanity.
Dita is nothing but a drug dealer, she deals the image of beauty, but it’s a false, extremely materialistic and misogynistic image. The only reason the rich men indulge her is that she reminds them of the ‘glamorous’ mothers that neglected them day after day. And the sick, inhumane, cycle continues.
You are not symbolic of any beauty Dita, you are a machine to commodify beauty. You are not glamorous, you are just a ghost with heaps of make-up, perfume, and who knows what else! You really were better off staying in the Pizza parlor, because at least then you fed people food instead of psychological poisons.
Because, you see, a woman isn’t really supposed to feel good about herself and project her innate beauty to others as a means of attracting others to her looks and beauty. That, I guess, is giving in to “The MAN” and giving “him” power over “her sexuality”, and thus feed the overly oppressive beast that is capitalism. Far better for women to stay within their stations and remain pizza delivery girls, secretaries, and maids so that they can receive the proper “education” about how rich women wearing scantily clad clothing purchased apparently by rich men for the expressed purpose of “objectification” are the true enemies of the sisterhood, rather than the people who actually control the means of production and who profit far more from economic inequality than Dita Von Tesse could ever do with her handbag and scarf.
This is, of course, the usual misguided nonsense that is often put forth by pseudo-”socialists” who just love to steal quotes from Karl Marx and other Marxists about “commodification” and apply them to fit their own culturalist ideology, without even bothering to actually read what Marx actually said. In short, this is the same theology as Gail Dines, but on streoids.
But that last bit was just a warmup for the “Activists”.
When a sex worker named Maggie Mayhem decided to use her Twitter page to call “The Activists” out over their stupidity and their misuse of “socialist” rhetoric to cover up their slut-shaming and their misreading of prostitution and sex work, their initial response was an email in which they included this bit (excerpted from this tweet):
“If you choose to give your sex away for free, no one will have a problem with that.”
Their second response was to refer to another post that they published at their blog the day after they posted the attack on Dita Von Tesse…except that this time, the offender was not a single person, but pornography as a whole.
Similar to the Von Tesse essay, this new blast took on all the usual radicalfeminist/”Puritan Left” talking points about how porn was the essence of capitalism “objectifying” women’s bodies for the pleasure of rich men….and exploded them to heights even Gail Dines would be afraid to scale. I’ll first repost the entitity of their rant, so that you can marvel at the concentration of bullshit…errrrrrr, of logic, before I proceed with the analysis thereof.
There are many people who see pornography as a harmless expression of human sexuality. There are many men who see watching pornography as a mere leisurely activity. This sort of perspective is downright delusional and completely irresponsible.
First of all, pornography is a highly regulated industry. It is regulated by the oppressive state to deflate the emotional and psychological energy in millions of people. The average male in the United States watches countless hours of pornography each week, estimates range from 3.2 hours to 5.1 hours. This becomes even more problematic when you consider the fact that pornography is a very complex form of consumption.
When you watch pornography you are essentially watching a machine that is milking your sexuality. When you focus your eyes on the image on the screen, you are essentially having sex with the machine. When you devote all of your sexual and emotional attention to the screen, you are essentially becoming one with the screen, worshipping the corporate vision of human sexuality. This is very dangerous, because it isolates you completely and turns you into yet another victim of the Pygmalion dream. Pornography is false consciousness on its highest level. Sure in the real life you might get rejected or hurt, but at least you establish authentic human relationships. In the world of pornography your sexuality is merely squeezed out of you, so you can get back to work, like a good efficient slave.
There is nothing puritanical in this argument. I believe that human sexuality should be free and open, I have no problem with masturbation, polyamorous relationships or physical experimentation at all. I do however have a problem with the idea that we as human beings are surrendering our body and soul to the pornographic machine. I have a problem with the notion that the state and its ruling elites are creating these psychological traps which destroy and distort the visions of human beings.
Now imagine, a world in which men did not watch pornography. A world in which our energy was channeled into creative flows, into healthy relationships, into communal values, instead of watching our essence spill onto a programmed, screen-oriented, reality.
Imagine a world in which men do not spend 300 hours a year staring at a screen, objectifying women, hoping that this fake hyper-sexuality might come true.
Also, consider the fact that 95% pornography is now produced by professional media corporations. Thus, by watching this corporate vision of human sexuality, you are surrendering yourself to the corporate machine. It seems absurd, but there is nothing absurd about it. The capitalists want to control all aspects of the worker’s life, his entertainment, his visions, his aspirations and his sexuality too.
The capitalists want to control all aspects of our existence because they understand that if we open our eyes in any real sense, then their days are numbered.
First of all, you may note how the authors attempt to mask their radical cultural feminist agenda by focusing on how porn uses capitalism to distort and destroy human sexuality, rather than the usual radfem boilerplate about how porn simply is the template for men to possess and occupy women’s bodies for their own pillage and pleasure. But, the rhetoric merely is a thin cloak that hides the Wizard of Dines/MacKinnon/Dworkin that lurks behind the curtain.
The vision of an overarching “corporate vision of human sexuality” being projected through porn ignores the inconvenient fact that the modern day porn industry is not nearly old enough to be fully exploitable for anyone, having only really existed for the past 30 or so years, while the capitalist system has been using fundamentalist Christianity, the organized media, and the combined forces of Madison Avenue and Hollywood to impose their stylistic standards for the better part of 50 years. (The FBI and the local vice squads haven’t hurt, either.) Never also mind the fact that most of the driving force behind the trashing of sexual boundaries that has laid the foundation for the development and acceptance of explicit adult consensual sexual media has come from the feminist, gay/lesbian/bi/trans liberation, and the sexual liberationist movements of the 60′s and 70′s…the same movements who were essentially frowned down on by the corporate establishment and even violently repressed and supressed…at least until some found out that they could make a decent profit by accepting the inevitable. Cooptation is NOT the same as exploitation, you know.
The sense of scale these folks utilize is seriously lacking, too. “3.2 hours to 5.1 hours a week” watching porn may seem to be nearing addictive stage…until you actually do the math; averaging that figure out to 4 hours a week, that still translates to a whopping 0.025 hours per week, or, one and one-half minutes an hour of men’s brains being polluted by porn. This is not merely the tail wagging the dog; this is like the tip of the end hair string of the tail wagging the dog. Similarly, the “300 hours a year staring at a screen” being wasted away by porn certainly makes one wonder how that man bothered to get by the other 8,470 hours of that same year. Especially given that antiporn messages put out by fundamentalist religionists and antiporn feminist “leftists” probably get far more airtime than porn ever could afford..even if it is “corporatized” and sanctioned by business interests.
And I really hate to burst their bubble, but not all capitalists are so driven to attempt to regulate every second of a person’s life; most are more than willing to give their workers some sembulance of privacy, as long as they get the six- to eight- hours a day they need to extort their work value out for their profits. Capitalism is about exploitation and commodification, but it is mostly about private control of production and inequal distribution of wealth and income and resources.
On the other hand, I know of plenty of “socialist” ideologies (Maoism and Stalinist Communism, for example) who aren’t adverse to attempting to change the man (or woman, or transgendered) to fit the system and obliterate diversity and individuality in the name of “transformation” for the benefit of the “collective” and the State. Sounds familiar??
And, this “95% of porn is produced by professional media corporations” meme would be laughable even if proven true..which it most certainly isn’t, since it is well established that while it is major Internet/wired hardware/software and TV/cable/DVD providers who profit greatly by allowing the transmission of explicit adult sexual media through their products, most of the actual production of porn comes from mom-and-pop outlets and individuals who simply use a camcorder, a digital phone, a digital camera, and cheap webhosting to create their XXX (or XX or NC-17) masterpieces. And a decent number of them don’t even earn a penny creating their product; they simply create for the attention or for the attraction..or for the thrill of the orgasm.
Of course, this notion of “If men’s minds wasn’t so polluted with all this sex, we could rule the world” is simply the mirror of the classic of all totalitarians that controlling the minds and brains of the populace through sexual repression will keep humankind safe and free and clean of all the problems and diseases of the world. It’s essentially the same mentality that has been used by the Religious Right to suppress women’s rights and choices (only with eliminating the “sluts” and “humanists” and “socialists”..and “Jews” and “Catholics” and “liberals” and “secularists” rather than the “capitalists” and the “patriarchy” and the “men”) for time immortal. For avowed “socialists” to be calling for the use of fascist methods as tools of liberation is not only a bastardization of true socialism and workers’ equality and feminism, but the total opposite of what liberatory and progressive radical political economy can and should be.
Dita Von Tesse and Nina Hartley are NOT the problems or even the byproducts of capitalism. Not even close. Their spirit of independence and willingness to buck the system and even use its contradictions to better themselves and provide a safe space for women exploring their sexuality, on the other hand, do provide a haven that can be quite positive and useful in the interm while a truly liberatory movement against the excesses and inequality of capitalism can be built from the ground up. Rather than hate on them for their love of sex and their own bodies, it would behoove those who call themselves “radicals” to concentrate their fire on genuine inequalities and the abuse of power and privilege that is the real byproduct of capitalism, rather than tilt windmills at symbols and/or waste valuable time and resources on myopic personal pique at women who show off a bit of cleavage or nipple or leg or midriff and who prefer high heels for the look and the attention.
After all, it’s not as if Dita’s walking the streets naked with her handbag. Not that that wouldn’t be sexually arousing as hell…but then again, so would Nina in a two-piece thong-and-bra. Course, no corporation would risk selling handbags or shoes using that image, now wouldn’t they?? Not even Nina Footwear, who fought Nina Hartley tooth and nail (and ultimately lost) for the right to use the Nina.com domain name.
As far as I am concerned, The Activists can just kiss my ass…because they aren’t even good enough to deserve to kiss Nina’s. Or, for that matter, Dita’s.
There is a basic rule here: if you deserve to get whacked, you get whacked.
Consequently, if you do something praiseworthy, you get praised.
I just spent the last post whacking Zinnia Jones for her attempted defense of her girlfriend Heather’s nonsense over sex-positive feminism and sex worker rights advocacy. I still stand behind that post, as I do everything I write.
I’m sure that ZJ will stand by his/her beliefs as well..and that’s fine by me.
But yesterday, ZJ showed that she is willing to listen and atone for doing questionable and hypocritical things.
In particular, her sponsorship of a fundraising event for the fundamentalist “rescue” group Love146, which claims itself to be a support group against child sex trafficking, but mostly exists to prosletyze their religion on poor people in exchange for essential subsistence.
Other sex worker YouTube activists — in particular, Divinity33372 and FeministWhore — had specifically called ZJ out on her support of and participation in the Love146 fundraiser.
Yesterday, in her latest YT video, though, Zinnia responded.
Gotta give credit where credit is due…that took huge sac to admit publically you were wrong…and the offer to sponsor a charity fundraising event for a sex worker org of FemWho’s choosing is a stroke of genius.
FemWho is currently under the weather…so Divinity has taken up the lead in responding to Zinnia’s offer. Here’s Div’s response, posted this morning:
Well done and done well, ZJ. You might be something after all. =)
Well…Zinnia Jones has responded in her typical urbane and wordy way via both YouTube and her website to the criticism of her girlfriend Heather’s video blast against “sex-positive feminism” and the advocacy of sex worker activists.
Now, she decided to sidestep the issues about the smearing of sex positive feminists by Heather as unwilling to even think about the negatives of sex work, or the charges that sex positives are only obsessed with pushing the boundaries of what is “sexy” at the expense of the majority.
Instead, she decided to take head on, the critiques of activist sex workers like YouTubers Divinity33372, thecryptkeeper, and FeministWhore, (as well as sexpoz supporters such as BobChaos23), who directly challenged Heather’s expressions that activist sex workers working for decriminalization were being totally dismissive of the dangers and risks of sex work, and that reducing criticism of prostitution as a dangerous and damaging profession to “shaming sex workers” and the sole view of right-wing fundamentalists and reactionaries did not change or reduce the validity of the critiques themselves.
I will offer here a full rebuttal of ZJ’s response, through a friendly and respectful, if passionate, fisking, using the written transcript of her video. If anyone else decided to offer their own video transcript, then it will be posted here as an update/addendum, as well as ZJ’s original video response. Please note that for the record, ZJ has been nothing but cordial in our dialogue, even if we somewhat disagree on the core principals.
First, for the purpose of giving legit credit, here;s Zinnia’s response on video:
And now, let the fisking…errr, the rebuttal begin.
Perhaps the most controversial portion of the previous guest video was the assertion that sex work is often dangerous and harmful to women, in contrast to certain testimonials that suggest it is a relatively mundane profession. The backlash to this claim has been swift, fierce, and thoroughly informative. Along with assorted criticism of the idea that prostitution is itself a problem, the most common response was that the decriminalization of buying and selling sex would reduce the harms associated with prostitution. All of these views are certainly worth examining.
Actually, ZJ, I would say that in my opinion, Heather’s trite and blissful dismissal of sex-positive feminists as blithering idiots and adolescents needing to “grow up” and elitists who play with their dildos while the majority of women are left to suffer is far more controversial and bothersome…..but that’s a whole different kettle of fish for another blog entry. For now, though, the concerns you put forth will do just fine right now.
For starters, maybe my ears and eyes are deceiving me (I am approaching fifty years of age), but I see nowhere where any critic of yours or Heather’s even came close to saying that sex work of any kind was “mundane”, or that there weren’t any dangers or harm in doing sex work. Not from Divinity, not from FemWho, not from thecryptkeeper, not even from BobChaos23 or Iamcuriousblue
Also, the collective criticism that I heard from the sex workers you mentioned is NOT that decriminalization would solve all the issues of harm, but that decriminalization would be the best way of promoting the kind of harm reduction strategies that have been proven to work to diminish the dangers. Their fundamental point is that most of the harms associated with sex work are the direct result of criminalization encouraging both a hidden “black market” where prostitution and pornography exist under an umbrella of shame and darkness, where otherwise basic protections of human rights and autonomy are suppressed and denied under the reign of sexual shame and loathing and economic/class hierarchy, and where the very ideology of “protecting women” from the supposed vagaries of “male lust” actually reinforce the attitudes about sexuality that feed the current criminalization regime. Disagree with that if you must, ZJ, and you are totally entitled to that disagreement…but that argument deserves its own respect and dignity, and should not be so utterly dismissed as Heather attempted to do.
One of the first objections to arise was the suggestion that you shouldn’t talk about sex workers at all if you aren’t a sex worker yourself or if you haven’t spoken to sex workers. First of all, people often discuss topics that they may not be personally involved in, and while firsthand experience can provide unique and valuable insight, it does not necessarily make you any more correct on a given point. Furthermore, to assume that someone’s position on sex work must mean that they’ve never spoken with any sex workers implies that doing so will reliably alter someone’s views and induce them to adopt a particular stance on the subject. It suggests that it would be outright impossible for them to maintain their present position after, or even because of, speaking to sex workers. For anyone to insinuate that the experiences of sex workers will invariably support their own stance seems very overreaching.
Of course, no one is saying that only sex workers can have an opinion on sex work, any more than saying that only gay men should be allowed to have an opinion about homosexuality or only transgendered folk should be allowed to speak about cross dressing or intersexuality. (Remember…I’m not a sex worker, either…and that doesn’t stop me from expressing my opinions.) But, that’s not the real point here, isn’t it?? If you are going to say stuff about sex workers, however, I would think that you would not be so dismissive when actual sex workers happen to respond to your opinions…especially if they consider said opinions to be completely distortive, out of order, conjecture, and basically outright lies.
Also, ZJ…you seem to be mightily one-sided when it comes to analyzing opinions of sex work…for while you are so quick on the trigger to shoot down pro-decriminalization sex work advocates for assuming absolute truth, you ignore at your peril the even greater absolutism of the other side of the sex worker debate. At least Divinity and FemWho and other pro-sex/harm reduction/decriminalization advocates are willing to respect the other side enough to engage them in an attempt to discuss the issue. Such cannot be said of the likes of abolitionist radical feminists like Janice Raymond or Shelia Jeffreys or Donna M. Hughes or Kathleen Barry, who consistently dismiss not only the arguments of their critics, but even deny them even the decency of human respect..or even coexistence. For the latter, it’s either you’re for them or you’re a “traitor” to the “patriarchy”, a “cocksucker”; a “cumdumpster”, or simply “a man”.
And as for the notion that a sex worker’s personal “experiences” should not count as supporting their personal beliefs….funny how that seems to apply only to sex positives and not to the experiences of….say, Rebecca Mott, who is one of the more powerful former sex-workers-turned-abolitionists. I wonder: would Heather ever publish a YT video rejecting the spoken experiences of, say, a Shelley Lubben as very much an extreme anomaly and not necessarily the experience of the majority of porn performers? If she was attempting to be even handed, then why only go after the “pro-decriminalization” side as the “radical” and “extreme” side?? I guess that some experiences are more “insinuating” than others, then??
[Addedum by Anthony: I especially am impressed with the way that ZJ attempts to give Divinity the ultimate insult by not even acknowledging her concerns or her points...or even her existence. Come on now, ZJ...when you slam fundies or Wiccans or right-wing asshats, you at least give them the decency of calling them out by name. What's wrong with giving Div and FemWho and RubyDynamite the same respect??]
Others pointed out that sex worker rights advocates are often also involving in fighting for causes such as immigration reform and transgender rights. This is indeed a praiseworthy endeavor, but the validity of these causes does not make the remainder of their positions correct by contagion. Conversely, many noted that prostitution is also seen as harmful by fundamentalist Christians and certain severely transphobic feminists, as if to say that anyone who shares this view is just as bad as these groups. But the wisdom or idiocy of someone who holds a certain stance does not change the validity, truth value, or factual support of the position itself. The Catholic Church may oppose the death penalty as a matter of official policy, but this obviously doesn’t mean that this view is inherently linked to them or forever contaminated by its association with them.
This sounds so much like a combination of two divergent principles: 1) Just because you do good things doesn’t make the bad things you do disappear (the “irredeemable grace” dictum); and 2) Because an idea is expressed by obviously evil people does not make the idea innately evil; the same idea expressed by a progressive might be a pretty damn solid idea under another perspectice. The Main problem with Dictate #1 is that it ignores the overall conjoining principles of equality and human autonomy which motivate most sex positives to also support such causes as transgender rights and immigrant/migrant rights, essentially trivializing their motives. Is ZJ implying that the only motivation for sex pozzies to promote other progressive causes is merely to get into men’s pants or women’s panties?? And as for #2: if we carried that to its logical conclusion, then we could say that chattel enslavement of Black folk would have been a pretty damn good thing if it weren’t for those damn racist Southerners…if it had been more decent Northern “moderates”, then slavery would have been AOK.
Of course, an idea should be measured by its quality and its impacts on real people, not by whom’s selling or backing it. Slavery would be just as bad and should be opposed just as severely if it were Blacks enslaving Whites, even if such a scenario has never actually happened in reality. And, consequently, just because some sex workers can be mistreated by their clients does not eliminate the possibility that the majority of prostitute/client relationships can be cordial and consensual…especially if the conditions underlying such relationships can be transformed.
Finally for this segment: how ironic that a militant atheist like Zinnia Jones ends up defending the Catholic Church, of all people, for their stated stance against the death penalty…especially considering that the hierarchy of the Catholic Church seems not to be quite as willing to enforce that portion of their doctrine as much as they do against reproductive autonomy for women. Or, for that matter, protections for transgendered folk or crossdressing men. *hint*
Further, some drew attention to the fact that various so-called “rescue” groups seeking to help sex workers leave prostitution are often run by evangelical Christians who frequently engage in religious indoctrination, and are otherwise insensitive to the actual needs of sex workers. This is clearly a problem, as is the invasion of religion into a multitude of charity and assistance roles in society. But just as with feeding the hungry, it does not mean that the very idea of helping sex workers who want to leave the trade is irredeemably flawed – only that its execution has often been compromised by ignorance and blind dogma, and this needs to change.
You will notice how ZJ attempts to spin this into an issue of religion and faith in general affecting charity and assistance to poor folk. Problem is, it’s not quite so simple. For starters, not all religious missionaries engage in the chicanery and blatant exploitation of poverty that groups like Love146 does; there are plenty of progressive religious folk who truly do not preface aid and relief on a prior ministering.
Secondly, once again, ZJ makes the assumption that sex pozzies only want to entrap people to stay in “prostitution” their entire life…a total fabrication that not even many passionate abolitionists dare to speak out aloud. Hate to burst your bubble, Zinnia, dearie, but no respectful sex worker OR sex+ feminist I know has EVER advocated that people should remain sex workers against their will. In fact, ZJ, if you actually manage to open your eyes and ears and actually read up on actual sex worker activists, you will find that they are as much opposed to coercing people into sex work against their stated will as anyone else.
‘Ya think I’m lying?? Remember that essay from Dr. Carol Queen that I posted earlier here?? Here’s some interesting snippage from there that should put ZJ and Heather to shame:
No one should ever, by economic constraint or any kind of interpersonal force, have to do sex work who does not like sex, who is not cut out for a life of sexual generosity (however high the fee charged for it). Wanting to make a lot of money should not be the only qualification for becoming a whore. We in this profession swim against the tide of our culture’s inability to come to terms with human sexual variety and desire, its very fear of communicating about sex in an honest and nonjudgemental way. We need special qualities, or at the very least we need a way of thinking that lets us retain our self-esteem when everyone else, especially do-gooders, would like to undermine it.
Activist whores teach, among other things, a view of our culture’s sexual profile that differs from traditional normative sexuality. Every whore embodies this difference each time s/he works. It is time for all whores to embrace this difference, to become ambassadors for sex and gratification. The politics of being a whore do not differ markedly from the politics of any other sexually despised group. We must include radical sexual politics in our agenda, becoming defenders of sex itself. Our well being and our defense depend on it.
In other words….if you are simply thinking about doing sex work just for the money, you may want to think twice. It’s still, first and foremost, about the sex.
And, BTW…it still doesn’t help matters when a certain militant atheist activist pratts on about how bad religious missions to the poor are, when in the next breath they are hosting fundraisers for those very same missions to bring that same religious bigotry. Love146 still thanks you kindly for the donation, ZJ.
It’s also been mentioned that studies by anti-prostitution researchers such as Melissa Farley and Janice Raymond often contain methodological flaws which severely undermine their validity. But regardless of the nature of these errors, the flaws in studies purportedly showing that prostitution is dangerous do not mean that it must therefore be safe, just as flaws in a study showing it to be safe would not mean it was harmful. Instead, it indicates that the study in question simply does not tell us anything useful about the facts of prostitution.
Hmmm…does that mean, then, that were it not for those “methodological flaws”, then the crackpot theories of Farley and Raymond about how “90% of ‘prostituted women’ wanted out of the industry” or how transsexuality is merely a trick used by men to “rape women’s bodies”, should be accepted as legitimate and viable theses?? Or, as that other “methodologically flawed” study called the Meese Commission on Pornography once attempted to note: “The lack of causation should not be taken as the absence of one.”
And, considering that ZJ’s entire thesis in this effort to defend her girlfriend is that prostitution is indeed very much harmful and unsafe, and that critics of hers are simply in denial because they are impervious to the facts on the ground due to their “elitism”…then what does that say about her own methods??
I would guess that “methodological flaws” were the least of the problems of Farley’s “research” or Raymond’s “science”; their foundational bias and core bigotry against any form of sexuality not meeting their exacting standards of “bodily integrity” would be far more troubling to most people. But, any port in a storm, I guess.
Many people also seemed to suggest that claiming prostitution is harmful must mean passing some kind of moral judgment upon sex workers themselves for their activities. Finding this unacceptable, they concluded that it must therefore be wrong to say that prostitution is harmful. But regarding prostitution as harmful does not necessitate condemning sex workers. After all, many people have cited the dangerous working conditions for sex workers as a reason why criminalization is an inadequate and harmful policy. Passing judgment on workers would require some kind of ethical theory beyond the factual question of whether prostitution is dangerous, and I personally do not see the condemnation of sex workers as warranted or appropriate in any way.
Merely regarding prostitution as harmful may not necessarily render sex workers condemnable. Regarding prostitution as harmful and then working to wipe their profession off the face of the earth through the power of the State, on the other hand? That would constitute condemnation to infinity. What Zinnia seems to be severely ignorant of is the essential fact that the people most likely to see prostitution as the most harmful are the very ones also most likely to condemn sex workers who defend their right to do sex work in the starkest terms. (The aformentioned “traitors” and “cumdumptsters” and “house n****rs” come to mind here.) The fact that they may say that they are “pro-sex worker” is merely a propaganda guise to fend off charges of complicity with the Right, and to provide a nice “progressive” patina for their fundamentally conservative objectives.
You would think that an intellegent, urbane (wo)man like ZJ would understand that, especially since (s)he has been the target of genuine hatred from fundies due to her atheism and her support of gay rights. All thoughts collapse, though, when it comes to sex, I guess.
On a related note, some people seemed imply that to criticize testimonial ads such as those from Turn Off The Blue Light in Ireland is tantamount to supporting social stigma against sex workers. Apparently, since these ads aim to diminish the stigma against sex workers, then taking issue with these ads must mean endorsing that stigma. But this doesn’t follow, and holding to such logic only serves as a way of using one’s well-intentioned motives to preclude any criticism of the actual results.
A bit of background is needed here: Turn Off The Blue Light is actually an organization run by activist pro-decriminalization sex workers in Ireland that was created in response to an anti sexwork abolitionist campaign called “Turn Off The Red Light” (original Irish site translated to English via Google Translate here), which is currently seeking legislation to impose the “Swedish Model” brand of sex work criminalization on that country.
So, is this what ZJ is saying here?? TOTRL puts forth obvious propaganda deliberately intended to erase and wipe out actual human beings merely because TOTRL doesn’t like their profession, and TOTBL responds with testimonials from those actual people saying that they are perfectly capable of thinking and acting for themselves and they should have some say in their livelihoods being affected…and it’s the latter that ZJ attacks for being “illogical” and unfair?? Only the abolitionist side, which Zinnia continues to cloak and hide is concerned with stigma, then?? Or…I guess that only antis get to do testimonials about the “dangers” of sex work and to conflate legal consensual adult sex work with “trafficking”, and anyone who actually attempts to respond to that with real people gets branded as exploiting “stigma” for personal advantage??
Isn’t that what right-wing fundies do to atheists, gays and sexual dissidents all the time? Why should that be any less contemptible when a putative “progressive” does the same Goddess damn thing to sex workers and their advocates/supporters??
While it may not have been their goal, these posters neglect to mention the very real dangers faced by many sex workers as part of their job. In doing so, they give the impression that it’s not much different from any other profession – that it’s a safe, uneventful, and thoroughly ordinary way to make a living, chosen freely and on its own merits rather than due to a lack of alternatives. But for many sex workers, it is not a job that suits their needs, in terms of workplace safety, a living wage, freedom from exploitation, and, yes, not wanting to have to sleep with paying customers just to survive. Instead, these posters depict sex work as a satisfying, voluntary and harmless job like any other. That may be the case for some sex workers, but certainly not for many others. And unless misleadingly portraying such circumstances as typical of sex work is actually the only way to reduce stigma, no one is opposing such efforts by simply objecting to this approach.
And here comes the strawman one more time. ZJ, here’s my challenge to you, dear: go and search Google and name me ONE prominent sex worker activist who “neglects” the risks and dangers of sex work. Name me ONE sex worker advocate who even comes close to portraying sex work as a whole as inherently “satisfying, voluntary and harmless” for EVERYONE, in the same way that you and the antis portray it as the essence of rape and slavery. I’m not talking about individual experiences here; I am talking about overarching assumptions about sex workers as a collective.
Besides, the point that YOU miss is that for pro-decrim/harm reduction sex worker advocates, the issue is NOT making sex work “harmless”, it is about making it safer, and reducing the risks and harms by actually treating the worker and the client as human beings capable of thought and moral sense. The fundamental difference between that approach and the “Nuke ‘em all!!!” approach of the antis/abolitionists is essentially the difference between remodeling a broken house and simply blowing it apart with its occupants inside.
And yes, ZJ…many folk who do sex work probably do want to get out someday and not depend on “sleeping with strangers” for their subsistence. We get that….really we do. That’s why most sex worker advocates are also for such things like livable wages, expanding and fixing physical infrastructure, providing a decent floor of financial support, and increased access to education. What we will NOT do, however, is preface such aid on “accepting Jesus Christ as your Savior”, or admonishing poor women to “keep your pants zipped and stop sleeping around, you dirty slut”, or any other form of social engineering, or reducing every man/boy with a penis to a “potential rapist”. That kind of stigma is simply unacceptable. But, I guess that in your mind, if “progressive” abolitionists do it, then it’s no longer stigma, but simply “judgment”…right??
Most sex workers have their good days and their bad days…and some have good and bad on the same day. In short, they survive as best as they can, like the rest of us.
Many people did say that prostitution shouldn’t be seen as different from any other job, in that many people are forced to hold unpleasant jobs because there are no better alternatives and they need money. But prostitution is different: it frequently comes with an inordinate risk of assault, robbery, sexual harassment, rape, and murder, unlike that of practically any other job. Workplace safety is often lacking, if not absent entirely. For this, workers receive no hazard pay whatsoever. Given the conditions under which many of them work, it’s plainly inaccurate to say that there’s no more coercion in choosing prostitution than there is in any other undesirable job. Such circumstances do not tend to attract willing employees.
Once again, ZJ uses “many people” as a crutch to invent another strawman to burn down. Prostitution, pornography, and other forms of sex work are certainly different from other professions due to the nature of sexuality..but to say that they are so fundamentally different that they should be solely targeted for condemnation is selective to say the least. As if rape, murder, sexual harassment, assault, physical injury, and emotional stress aren’t issues with most other professions offering the reward of decent pay? Ask any secretary or waitress whether they feel any less under the gun from their bosses or from asshole clients. Ask any professional athlete recovering from knee surgery whether or not getting a fat paycheck from the NFL or NBA or MLB protects them from abusive fans.
And, it’s not as if even prostitutes don’t have any means of protection at all…porn has a testing regimen for STI’s that has been proven effective in containing outbreaks (in spite of the recent attempts to undermind and obliterate it in favor of the panacea of mandatory condoms), and the Nevada brothel system does include its own security. In fact, decriminalization, in its own effect, would bring the full force of the State’s legal protection in the form of rape/sexual assault laws and workplace protections into effect; while criminalization keeps such protections not only out of reach, but actually encourages further abuses. (Not to mention, abuses by the very police forces supposedly enforcing these laws.)
Oh…and how nice for ZJ to simply assume as always that she can read the minds of others and tell them how they were motivated to enter sex work. The idea that women may enter such professions as a means of expressing their sexuality, or as an extra source of income to get through college, or simply to meet and fuck lots of interesting people, simply cannot register in Zinnia’s mind..probably because she has assumed the same class-based sex negativism and elitism that is the embodiement of Heather and other abolitionist radfems. And yet, she allowed Heather to play the “sexual liberals/sex pozzies are elitists!!” card with impunity.
Sex workers themselves have attested to this. In a commonly cited study by the Pivot Legal Society in Vancouver, many workers said that prostitution should not be a job that anyone could be required to take as part of a search for work in order to receive income assistance:
“Well I should say sex work, being in the sex trade is not an option; it’s just like a survival thing. I mean… it’s usually… not by choice…. If someone were forcing you to go back, …that’s like a pimp, that’s kind of saying, oh you have to go risk your life.”
“I don’t think they should be forced into the trade [by an income assistance worker] because of things that could happen in the industry as being a sex worker – harmful to the mind like bad dates and drug use…”
“Because not everybody has the emotional control to be a sex worker, or detachment. Detachment to be a sex worker.”
“I believe that it is a very hard job to do, you are basically a sexual surrogate… and I agree that it takes a certain… personality type to do that kind of job. It’s a very, very specialized occupation.”
“There’s a difference between selling your ass and selling a hamburger. The hamburger’s not personal.”
If listening to sex workers is key, then it would seem that even sex workers consider prostitution to be different in kind from other types of employment.
Oh, but this is real funny….so, after spending two videos and nearly 65% of her essay discounting and rejecting and even silencing through lack of acknowledgment activist sex workers attempting to educate her on the realities, Zinnia now goes off and quotes….actual sex workers to reinforce her thesis that sex work is innately dangerous and special and worthy of special censure??
And even those quotes ZJ pulled out of that study prove..not much. No one ever said that prostitution was the same as other professions, only that it should be accepted and reformed and transformed into a safer and legitimate profession for those who want to use it for pursuing their sexual autonomy. What part of that does not register with you, ZJ??
People have often claimed that the hazards of prostitution arise from the criminalization of selling or buying sexual services, operating brothels, procuring and soliciting, and that many of these risks would be ameliorated if all of this were decriminalized and treated like any other fully legal profession. And there is quite a lot to be said for this position. When prostitution is against the law, this discourages workers from reporting any crimes against them for fear of prosecution, leaving them extremely vulnerable to abuse. It also leaves their jobs completely outside the realm of any kind of workplace safety regulations, and their employers aren’t required to operate within the applicable labor laws, creating an environment where exploitation flourishes.
First…if there really is “a lot to be said about this position”, then why not give legitimate credit to those who expouse that position (Divinity, FemWho, thecryptkeeper, et. al.)??
And secondly, sounds like simple common sense to me….so why dismiss it out of hand?? I suppose we don’t have to wait long to find out why.
In theory, decriminalization would remedy most if not all of these issues, and prostitution finally would become a job chosen because it suits people’s needs, with no more coercion than any other. But has this actually happened? New Zealand is often upheld as a model for full decriminalization, yet in a five-year review (PDF) of the 2003 Prostitution Reform Act, many workers reported having experienced assault, violent threats, being held against their will, theft, refusal to pay, and even rape. Few of them reported this to the police, and most who were surveyed felt that the Reform Act “could do little about the violence that occurred.” “…less than a quarter – felt there had been an improvement.” While there seem to be very few studies comparing the general well-being and safety of sex workers before and after this kind of reform, decriminalization does not appear to have been enough to prevent workers in New Zealand from continuing to experience violent abuse and mistreatment, especially those working at street level.
Riiiiight….just as, in theory, simply pulling anecdotal quotes from a 177-page report that actually concludes the exact opposite of what you claim would count to most people as sophistry…but, I guess I’m just a biased cismale with a working dick.
If prostitution should be treated like any other job, then it’s worth considering that we wouldn’t accept such unsafe conditions in any other job. Most people don’t have a problem with recognizing that some working conditions are simply too dangerous to be allowed, and such businesses are regulated or prohibited accordingly. Yet many advocates for decriminalization claim that too much legal regulation would only drive the sex trade underground once more and leave workers unprotected again. Clearly, determining the proper stringency of regulation is a challenging and delicate task, and the actual impact of a policy on workers should be the bottom line. But to suggest that anything which could conceivably impede the transaction must be done away with for fear of fueling the black market is simply negligent. Having the law look the other way on this does not make sex workers any more safe.
So, in other words, rampant criminalization such as the Swedish Model or the traditional fundie Christian model of jailing anyone involved in sex work (or any form of sexual activity not redeemed by the prevailing conservative social moral order of the day), while maybe a bit “excessive”, is far preferable to simply decriminalizing and allowing sex workers themselves to organize to mitigate and reduce such dangerous workplace situations. After all, sex should only be partaken for free and for the right reasons of marriage or “intimacy”, right??
I can just see Zinnia’s next YT video taking shape: “How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Support Shelley Lubben, Michael Weinstein, And The Condom Mandate”.
Also, she does know about the Republican Party and the Tea Party and their war on reproductive choice, right??
If decriminalization does actually improve the safety and welfare of sex workers, then this is a great start. If it doesn’t, and their working conditions remain just as dangerous, then other options are worth considering. Many advocates for decriminalization approach this issue with a goal of harm reduction, and so do I. And if these unacceptable dangers are simply inherent to prostitution (or a certain variety of it) and cannot be minimized while leaving the profession itself intact, then reducing the harm of prostitution requires reducing prostitution itself.
Yup…and if all gay men can be proven to be such butt fuckers who dress in swarthy clothing and seduce young boys into homosexuality and rampant open public sex, then we can justify denying gay folk the right to recognize their relationships through marriage. Or, we could simply throw the “rectum-loving AIDS-carrying queers” in jail or shoot their asses down and be done with it. After all, can’t look the other way when it comes to sexual predators like Jerry Sandusky or the Catholic priests, right??
Sarcasm aside, of course…the not so thinly veiled assumptions found in that one graph alone would fill a full pig farm manure pit. And remember, Heather’s original guest vid was promoted as a “fair and balanced” comparison of the competing ideologies. So, I guess that this is what Zinnia considers to be “fair debate”. Gail Dines would wholeheartedly approve.
We can agree that certain legal regimes have been shown to be unsuccessful at accomplishing this, and even harmful to sex workers without addressing their needs, but it does not mean that this can’t be a valid goal. It shouldn’t be outside the bounds of acceptable discourse to believe that nobody should be exposed to such hazards in the course of employment. This does not have to imply an unbending adherence to any particular policy, whether it’s full criminalization, criminalization of clients, full decriminalization, or legal regulation. Many people contend that all efforts at reducing prostitution have failed, but just as with any other problem we’re faced with, past failures are no reason to stop developing new strategies.
Can we agree?? Really, Zinnia?? There are some of us who would argue that the US model of simply jailing everyone and slut shaming women has been proven to be an utter failure, and that the Swedish Model has done nothing to reduce the level of prostitution or illegal sex trafficking, but has made life a living hell for the sex workers they supposedly are out to protect. But, I guess that since we’re a bunch of permissive liberals, our positions and strategies should not matter, and since the only strategy that you perceive to be such a failure is the decrim/harm reduction model (funny how once again, other strategies don’t merit even one mention, because you don’t see them as nearly as problematic??), how else should we conclude other than that you favor abolition and criminalization as your desired strategy?
Finally, some people pointed out that because prostitution is often the only option for sex workers, then working to eliminate prostitution would be taking their only option away from them. That may be the case, but there are a plethora of circumstances where people are deprived of income because something is too dangerous or inhumane to be legally allowed, such as child labor and sweatshops. Even if someone claimed that they had a wonderful experience working at an unsafe coal mine, and wanted no legal interference in this arrangement, such conditions would still not be permitted. The answer is not to remove the laws which prohibit these kinds of employment, but to remedy the lack of options which is forcing people into unsafe jobs such as prostitution. Sex workers have often attested to the inadequate social support they receive, which leaves them with nowhere else to turn. If nobody ever had to enter sex work, then it seems likely that fewer people would.
Except that comparing consensual adult sex work to working in an unsafe coal mine or child labor or sweatshops is like comparing apples to bowling balls. Sex work might be very dangerous right now because of the stigma and the illegality, but the main argument of decrim/harm reduction advocates is that if the stigma was removed and the criminality of consenting sex acts overturned, and more traditional egalitarian laws and principles applied across the board, then sex work could become more feasible as a legitimate profession, as well as safer and more profitable.
And besides that…there is the question of what exactly would Zinnia and the abolitionists that she now has totally endorsed offer to those sex workers who would be torn from their livelihoods by their campaigns for “regulation”?? Is she out there advocating for free cradle-to-grave public education, single payer and/or national health care, mandated livable wages, a guaranteed annual income as a ceiling for families (especially single mother-led families), a vastly increased public sector job corps for reinvigorating infrastructure, and other such ideals? Because without those things, dearie, all you are doing is turning the screws that much tighter on the very people you say you want to protect.
It’s easy for you, ZJ, as a middle-class White atheist radfem taking advantage of a free YouTube account and an inexpensive webhost to talk about what poor and working-class folk need. It’s not so easy if you happen to BE working class and are forced with the choice of “heat or eat” every Goddess damn day. Don’t hate on those sex workers who manage to accomplish staying afloat and staying alive..and who also manage to get some decent fun sex in the process.
And yes, ZJ, I am calling you a radfem, because the only difference between you and Diana Boston, NuclearNight, and the rest of the Army of RadicalFeministWhackjobs is that you aren’t brave enough to even state your biases openly and honestly. You have to get your girlfriend to put them out, then use your passive-aggressive dulcet tones to cloak them…but your actions ultimately reveal themselves in living color.
The question of which legal framework is most effective for dealing with prostitution is far from resolved, but full decriminalization appears to fall short of being the panacea that many have presented it as. The presumptuousness of people who expect and then demand complete support for this policy position is vastly out of proportion to the actual evidence of its efficacy. Contrary to prevailing opinion, it has not been established as a proven fact that would be as foolish to question as evolution. There is room for disagreement here, and recognizing that prostitution remains a dangerous field does not constitute a blemish upon one’s rationality.
And that’s the bottom line, because Queen Atheist/YouTube Warrior Zinnia Jones says so!!
But, is it, really??
Who’s really being presumptuous here…activist sex workers who accept the diversity of experiences and the individual humanity and integrity of sex workers, who are willing to accept that not all sex work is sweetness and light and would gladly assist in helping to remove the bad seeds and greedheads and assholes from their profession? Is it those who say that sexual stigma and sex hate is far more responsible for sexual assault and battery and the awful social conditions and the trafficking than legal, consensual, freely sought after and negotiated sex work?
Or…is the real presumptuousness actually perpetrated by wannabe “saviors” — whether they be fundamentalist Christians, radical feminists or militant atheists — who simply think that because they can sound urbane and concerned and “progressive” in a YouTube video, that gives them license to distort and deny the experiences and even silence the voices of actual practicing sex workers who are on the front lines and face the battle every day?
Maybe, the real presumptuousness lies in people who think of themselves as such experts in their field of vision that they retain the right to make stuff up as they go and change the rules to fit their ideologies at the moment….and still find time to find alleged fatal flaws in those whom they don’t quite understand.
Like most folks, I support and cheer Zinnia Jones when she waylays fundies for their flights of illogical fancy. I’ll probably favor her again when she busts the balls of Santorum or another antigay whackjob. And, I could care less whether or not she is really a she or a he, whether he’s just a crossdressing male or an intersexual being. I don’t judge people by their innate characteristics; I prefer to use more legitimate judgments such as actions and treatment of fellow human beings and other life forms.
What I do care about, though, is that when someone who calls herself a putative progressive starts belting out sex hating bullshit straight out of the Gail Dines/Catherine MacKinnon style book, and then attempts to silence and deny the existence and humanity of those she maligns, then I as a progressive human being have a moral duty to call it out, to say why it needs to be called out, and to correct the record with actual facts.
That, Zinnia, isn’t just rational. That’s morally RIGHT.
Or, as funk Jedi Master George Clinton once said: “Free your mind…and ‘yo ass will follow.” Try that sometime, ZJ..and LISTEN for a change.
And speaking of listening….Divinity has a word or a hundred to say, too.
I had originally posted this as a page to my SmackDog Chronicles blog back in 2005-ish…it immediately came to mind when thinking of a response to Heather and ZJ.
(From Whores and Other Feminists, ed. Jill Nagle (New York, Routledge Press, 1977, pp. 125-135)
I GROW MORE DISAFFECTED FROM POLITICS – both traditional and progressive – with every passing year. Only one sort of politics keeps my attention, feels relevant, stays vital: the politics of sex. I don’t mean primarily feminism, the politics of gender, but rather what some people call sex radicalism. Sex radical thought departs from both right- and most left-wing ideologies by honoring sex and desire and by posing the power relations of sexual orientation and behavior vis-à-vis the culture’s traditional sexual mores. What is illegal? What is despised, and why? What is transgressive; and what systems are shored up by the boundaries we transgress?
Sex Radicalism and Feminism: Not Always in Bed Together
As we will see, sex radical thought is both deeply feminist and also profoundly challenging to many attitudes and assumptions promoted by contemporary mainstream feminism. While I continue to identify with feminism, I also regard it with some disappointment: though I feel that most of its core principles go without saying, I certainly do not feel their unmodified relevance to all areas of my life, particularly to sex.
Feminism has greatly influenced the intellectual development of sex radicalism, many of whose earlier theorists – Gayle Rubin, Pat Califia, and Carole Vance, to name just a few – were (and are) outspoken feminist women. Feminism itself, however, does not embrace sex radicalism completely; nor is a feminist political analysis that is untouched by sex radicalism enough to unravel the various sources of sexual – not just gender – oppression. Gayle Rubin notes in her influential essay “Thinking Sex” (1) that sex radicalism’s analysis focuses on oppression sourced in “the stigma of erotic dissidence”; feminism, by contrast, is a theoretical attempt to analyze and act against gender oppression, having no position on sex except where sexual issues are seen as devolving from gender inequality. Feminism finds no shortage in gender-linked problems with sex – rape, spousal abuse and abortion rights are three examples that have spurred much feminist organizing and action – though I will argue that it is possible to cast this net too widely, seeing gender as the primary or sole issue where matters are more complex, as in lesbian oppression, S/M, pornography, and prostitution (just a few issues that have challenged mainstream feminism).
I myself grew up into feminist thought when it was fresh from its dalliance with ‘60s-style sexual liberation ideology. A woman ought to be able to do what she wants with her body and her sexuality, I read in books like Sisterhood is Powerful and Our Bodies, Ourselves. In my wholehearted agreement these became my feminist foundation. I was treading water in a sea of hormones, beginning to experiment with partner sex, learning to masturbate, slyly managing to access forbidden books. I wanted to know about sex; I wanted to feel powerful in it; I wanted to experiment, have lots of lovers, love both men and women; to be sexually free in a way I knew most women of my mother’s generation – and certainly my mother herself – were not.
For a time it seemed – at least, I believed – that feminism was my straight-forward ally in these desires. But mainstream feminists, as it turned out, had never been entirely been comfortable with sex. While I was happily devouring Sisterhood is Powerful at the age of thirteen, the National Organization for Women was trying to purge lesbians from its membership; not long after, Betty Dodson caused a heated stir – accompanied by walkouts – at one of NOW’s national meetings when she showed slides of vulvas. Sexual representation, even that of women, was controversial within orthodox feminism long before the mainstream media discovered Andrea Dworkin and Catharine MacKinnon.
The trail of my sexual fascinations, no less than my sexual politics, led me into the gay and lesbian community; and I stayed there from late adolescence through my twenties. There I learned a lot about sexual freedom and living as an outlaw; I was out as a lesbian in a small city, where I got my share of hate mail and death threats. I learned that many people are profoundly unwilling to let others live their own (especially sexual) lives. I saw the politics not only in gender but also in sexual behavior and sexual identity. Within a culture, power accrues not only according to class, race, and gender, but also by virtue of sexual orientation and behavior, actual and presumed. Uneven access to power formed the very basis of the way my generation learned to understand politics, even though within feminism the phrase “sexual politics” meant something quite different than the politicized sexual dramas I saw playing out all around me.
The next fork in the road came when I explored S/M with a lover. She was too nervous about other people’s opinions to let anyone know about our experiments in power-erotica, although I had heard rumors that in fact there was a small lesbian S/M support group within our community. I learned from this how fearful of discovery over a sexual “kink” even someone who was sexually well-adjusted – and already living counter to social norms – could be. Not long after, I began reading in the lesbian press that many women all across the country were conducting similar experiences; and that my lover had in fact been right to be worried about our community’s response. The lesbian/feminist community was being torn apart by heated disagreements about what constituted appropriate lesbian sex. In this context, more than the Maoism that had also influenced early radical feminism, I became familiar with the term “politically incorrect”. (That this term has been co-opted and used against feminists and progressives is only one of the bizarre political reversals faced by those of us whose politics were forged in ‘60s era notions of liberation.)
I had now learned that a key point in my understanding of feminism – that it is my and all women’s right to explore and define our own sexuality – was not universally accepted in the community of women who called themselves feminists. Arguments raged about sex and about sexual representation….that is, pornography. Increasingly I found myself on the side that was being termed politically incorrect. So when I heard the term “sex radical” for the first time, I knew before I even heard the definition that it applied to me.
Sex Radical, Sex-Positive
Sex radicalism means to me that I am automatically on the side of the minority sexual viewpoint or behavior; because our culture carefully and narrowly circumscribes what is acceptable, much of the sexual world gets left on the wrong side of the fence. Sex radicalism also means that when I hear the voices of those who have been left out of the discussion, I choose to believe what they tell me about their own lives, even if it contradicts some “expert’s” opinion; it also means that I maintain my own sexual integrity, if not cultural popularity, when I follow my own desires and trust where they lead.
Sex radicalism is also profoundly feminist, and with good reason. While many men are oppressed (in reality or potentially) for their sexual desires and practices, women are encouraged to never explore or experience sexual feelings in the first place. We are supposed to exist sexually within a (married, monogamous) relationship with a man, or else not at all. When we do step across the boundaries of compulsory heterosexuality and “good girl” propriety, we are often treated viciously. Women need each other’s support (although we do not always get it) to navigate the rough waters of living nontraditional sexual lives. Mainstream feminists learned this lesson from lesbians, who would not withdraw their demand for support from feminist organizations and institutions; it has not, however, extrapolated what it has learned to women elsewhere on the sexual fringe.
Upon further exploring sex radical thought, I learned the concept of “sex-negativity”, which most of us in this erotically benighted culture drink in along with our mother’s milk. I learned that there is indeed a community of people who are sex-positive, who don’t denigrate, medicalize, or demonize any form of sexual expression that is not nonconsensual. In our general society – where sex is sniggered at, commodified, and guiltily, surreptitiously engaged in – being outspokenly sex-positive is sex radical indeed; for even those of us who love sex are usually encouraged to find someone else’s preferred sexual expression abhorrent.
I discovered sex-positive thought in various places: through my study of sexology; through my friendships with sexually adventurous others, especially gay men; in the leather community; and, perhaps most importantly, through meeting women who were both outspokenly sexual and feminist and who refused to let one quality cancel out the other. These “sex-positive feminists,” as many of us have taken to call ourselves, embrace the feminist analysis of gender inequality, but challenge the silence or conservative positions of Dworkin- and MacKinnon-influenced feminism on sexual issues. Many sex positive feminists are veterans of the feminist sex ward over pornography and S/M; and many are current or former sex workers. Coming to a radical sexual world view, especially through my contacts with women who could relate to and who could mentor me through my confusion about sex and feminism, actually proved to be excellent preparation for becoming a whore. When I did so, I discovered a world very different from the one for which the vague warnings of mainstream feminists had prepared me. My comments are sourced in the whores’ world I have known; I do not intend to encompass the experience of those whores who do not work voluntarily, who are underage, and who act out the negative expectations imposed on them by a sexist and sex-negative culture.
Why Whores Need Sex-Positive Thought
Sources as disparate and discordant as Hollywood movies, right-wing Christians, and prominent feminists tell us that the sex industry make a career of pandering to men’s desires because, as victims of histories of abuse, we have no boundaries and sometimes no choices. For some of us there is some truth to this; there are certainly people whose mental and spiritual health would benefit from getting out of the business, and they are well served by support in doing so. But we learn next to nothing about those women for whom sex work is an excellent occupational choice and nothing at all about male sex workers – isn’t it a bit ironic that men are present in the sex industry in every capacity that women are, yet their lives, failing to fit neatly into theory, are simply ignored?
One orthodox feminist argument against whoring is that it gives men further sexual access to women; leaving aside whether reality is so simplifiable, how might they choose to argue against men having access to men? And why aren’t more of them clamoring for women to have equal access to sexual entertainment and service? These questions point to more fruitful areas of exploration about the nature of female and male sexual socialization, the reasons male patronize prostitutes (of whatever gender) and the place of sexual pleasure in male and female lives. Sex-positive feminists find these questions compelling; mainstream feminists often do not even ask them.
As an activist in the sex-positive community, I have met well over a hundred prostitutes, a few dozen dominatrices, and a number of models and porn actresses – far more than have most anti-sex work activists and even most sex researchers. Just one factor stands out to distinguish those who live well, with no loss of self-esteem, from those who may find sex work a difficult or even damaging career choice. Most of the former have sufficient sex information and are sex-positive. Most, too, are staunchly feminist, even though some of them refuse to embrace the term, associating it with women who do not understand their circumstances and who do not support their right to work and control their own bodies. Most of the latter have internalized negative attitudes about sex, especially divergent sexual behavior, and certainly about sex work itself.
In this respect, the latter are no different from those who have devoted their lives to agitating against sex work. None of these crusaders, whether they emerge from the Religious Right or the feminist Left, voices respect for sexuality. (Rubin, in fact, calls mainstream feminism a “system of sexual judgment”(2) — an accusation its adherents have not yet managed to disprove.
If these activists truly wanted to improve the lot of sex workers (which, of course, they don’t; they merely want to do away with the sex industry), they would insist upon thorough and nonjudgmental sex information for clients as well as whores. One basic piece of information would be that women – and whores – do not exist to be sexually used by men, but that any sexual interaction, including a paid one, benefits from negotiation. This would facilitate the climate of respect that anti-sex work demagogues claim is absent in a paid act of sexual entertainment or gratification. The paucity of sex-positive discussion about what is possible in a commodified context often negatively affects sex workers themselves.
In fact, when we whores see a client or when a peepshow worker or stripper interacts with a customer, the presence or absence of respect has much to do with how sex-positive the client or customer is – and something to do with our own sex-positivity. It also depends upon each person’s degree of self respect and presence or absence of sexual shame. Men who have taken (and internalized) the most damaging blows around their right to sexual pleasure are among the most unpleasant clients to deal with. Unfortunately, the well-publicized opinions of the anti-sex work crowd are highly judgmental about the motives of those who pay for sexual pleasure and entertainment. I have encountered many men whose self-acceptance – and social skills – have been impaired by hearing too much media credence given to the opinions of people who are in no position to make even an educated guess about what friendly relations between whores and their clients would be like. Sex-positive feminists are only now beginning to get enough media attention that their message can trickle down to these men and to other women.
Combined with our treatment by a sex-negative law enforcement and legal system and the notorious tendency of the police to think of aggressions against us as something other than crimes, many of us are routinely victimized – by police if not by our clients and customers. Meanwhile, most of society looks the other way, including many feminists who are quick to point out how egregiously our clients are “abusing” us simply by giving us money for sex of erotic entertainment. Feminists should be among the first to clamor for decriminalized prostitution, yet many remain silent and even vigilant in the fight to further criminalize prostitution. Feminists should raise their voices in protest when police abuse whores or ignore our need for police protection. Yet too often these voices are silent, even though these socially sanctioned abuses fall disproportionally on those most lacking feminist and other support: women of color, poor women, transgendered women.
Even when a supportive hand is extended, it often comes with a stipulation: get out of the business of do without help. The not-so-silent message is: if you elect to stay in the sex industry you can expect abuse, and we can (will) do nothing to help you. Parallel this to the deep (and deeply legitimate) concern feminists have shown to women in battered and abusive relationships; current thinking in the battered women’s movement emphasizes that women be supported where they are, not offered conditional assistance.
Some of us want out of the business, but many of us want to see conditions improve, with everybody else out of the way. All of us would be served by a dose of sex-positive thought, which might allow us – many for the first time – to think of what we do as a professional service, not demeaning, on-the-fringe behavior. An ever-increasing number of us want our sexually schizophrenic culture to look at the realities, not the lurid myths, of what we do; and to see that when sexual pleasure is seen as positive and honorable goal, much of the negative fruit of the sex industry is deprived of soil in which to grow.
Why Johns Need Sex-Positive Prostitutes
One stereotype has it that sex workers provide sexual relief to society’s “wretched”: the old, the unattractive, the unpartnered. This myth can fetch us a certain amount of grudging respect even as it lets others (who can’t imagine having sex with such people) distance themselves from us – as if only the young and the firm are allowed to have a sexuality in the first place, and as if whores render a service by keeping unacceptable sexualities out of the public eye. Certainly we count among our clients those who could fall outside the rather narrow limits of the erotically entitled. We also count among our clients the married, the well-off, the conventionally attractive, the famous, the socially skilled: the inheritors of patriarchy. Whores know, if no one else in society is willing to admit, that outside their relations with us, these men often have as little luck getting their erotic needs met as their “less fortunate” brothers.
One often frequently hears that whores are sought by kinky clients whose desires are unacceptable to other people. This, I think, is the source of part of the contention that clients want to abuse us; in spite of the fact that all over the country women are slurping on their partners’ cocks for free, experimenting with bondage, and arranging or at least fantasizing about threesomes, a large percentage of the U.S. population still considers activities like these beyond the pale, degrading, and abusive, even when consensually performed. In fact many clients bring socially unacceptable desires to sex workers – or at least desires that are unacceptable in their own bedrooms. And until the climates in their bedrooms change, sex professionals will be among their only outlets. The anti-whore sentiment that grows out of the conviction that there is only one kind of appropriate sex and that all others are sinful and/or abusive (depending on the sort of morality embraced by the critic) is precisely the cultural norm in opposition to which sex radical politics grew.
Sex radicals see as a problem – and a source of oppression – in any one’s conviction that their own sexual patterns are right while someone else’s are wrong. Getting between the lines of the anti-sex-work ideologues’ reasoning, we find various concerns embedded but not often articulated: a married man is wrong to take his sexual desires to anyone but his wife; a married man is wrong to have sexual desires if his wife isn’t comfortable with them; oral sex is depraved; giving men an outlet for blowjobs will just make the man want them at home, and blowjobs are demeaning to women; sex is demeaning unless a romantic bond (or a Christian bond) exist between a couple; giving a man an outlet for any kind of sex, including sexual looking [voyeurism], will make him want more sex/kinkier sex, if a prostitute isn’t immediately available, he will harass/rape other women; getting sex from a professional is the same as infidelity; men should not have access to sexual variety; prostitutes carry HIV (to “innocent victims”). (This says nothing of the numerous married men who actually patronize male whores; but again, this common situation is scarcely ever recognized and commented on by sex-work abolitionists, especially feminist ones.)
It is as though sex, especially male sex, is a bubbling cauldron of trouble, and if we don’t keep a lid on it, awful things will result.
In fact, this is precisely the lesson my mother tried to teach me. Her example, however, was not inspiring; and if all the women who rail against the sex industry have sexualities as closed as hers, the culture is in a painful, festering state indeed. “Do you know,” she whispered to me wide-eyed some months after my father’s death, “your father tried to convince me to perform oral sex on him six times during our marriage?”
“Dad,” I thought, “you animal! Once every five years! Have you no self-control?” More than once I’ve wished my distressingly buttoned-down dad – whose sexual unhappiness rubbed off on everyone in my family – had turned to a whore to let off some steam.
Like my parents, a majority of our clients have marriages marked by desire discrepancies and difficult communications about sex. Many women have grown up being fearful about sex, either because of unpleasant experiences or because these feelings were inculcated in them at (sometimes literally) their mothers’ knees. Others have grown up believing that sexual experimentation is wrong. Feminism, when it successfully reaches to these women at all, rarely contradicts the deep sexual antipathy they carry.
The availability of paid sexual gratification and entertainment does nothing to improve these partners’ sexual relationships except, perhaps, to take the pressure off; it has been argued that having a valve on the pressure cooker actually preserves marriages like this by minimizing the impact of their sexual contradictions. I’m inclined to believe this is true, but it still doesn’t cast a very rosy light on the situation; for one thing, are the women’s sexual desires being met in relationships such as these? Not very likely! My answer to the problem – universal sex-positive education and sexual empowerment for women – lies far away in the horizon.
Wives Need – and Can Learn From – Whores, Too
In the meantime, I think the unequal lot of these couples could be balanced somewhat by a growing availability of sexual entertainment for the women whose partners are going out and getting theirs by hiring professionals. Of course, this scenario would involve that our culture take a whole new look at women and sex. The gander may not be ready to share the playground with the goose; but, just as importantly, women may not be prepare to take into the marketplace desires they’ve been trained to romanticize. Much feminist theory has spotlit the ill effects on women’s self-esteem and autonomy of channeling sexuality into a relationship; but few feminists have suggested women could learn something by having more options for sexual fulfillment in the marketplace. As with the question of pornography and its appeal/availability to women, many sex-positive feminists support more female-centered choices in sexual service and entertainment, the proliferation of which might well affect the entire sex industry for the better. And if conflating sex and romance keeps women available for marriage (usually implying their acceptance of male control over their sexuality), how might detaching sex from romance serve to change what women desire from sex?
Viewed from a sex radical lens, whore stigma derives from whores’ sexual availability and presumes copious sexual activity. From a sex-positive feminist perspective, most whores are available and sexually active on their own terms. It’s no wonder that whore stigma attaches itself more viciously to women than to men, for in this society a sexually emancipated woman is threatening and despised; neither “slut” or “whore” is a name most women want to wear. Sex workers cross this line, either proudly or not, for money, adventure, or rebellion. Would our client’s wives – or even many mainstream feminists – be willing to brave that stigma for a chance at sexual agency? What about for the promise of greater solidarity among all women? Early feminism tried to erase the whore stigma for just that reason; today’s feminist orthodoxy would often rather do away with whores. Any issues that divides women – and this is one of the most potent divisions of all – is crucial for feminists to consider and resolve.
Other whores won’t necessarily agree with me, but I’d be glad to see sex work wither away because everyone became so sex-positive that a market for our services no longer existed. Perhaps then we could become the sexual healers and sex educators that many of us believe we (potentially or already) are. Of course, we’re nowhere close to that utopia; in the meantime sex workers can help facilitate gratification for those who wouldn’t ordinarily get it, and we can all – whores, sex radicals, sex-positive feminists, and critics alike – continue to ask questions whose answers point to an increasing level of comfort and safety for sex workers (as well as, incidentally, for our clients).
A Sex Radical, Sex-Positive, Whore’s-Eye View
The stereotype about sex workers that says we are driven to this demeaning lifestyle by a damaged history must be exposed as the sex-negative and, yes, sexist crap that it so often is. (How eerily this parallels what used to be said about lesbians?) This image is neither universally truthful nor even helpful for analyzing the situations of those whores whom it describes, unless the question is also asked: What separates those sex workers who experience their lives negatively from those who do not? Abolitionists won’t ask this question, because it implies that there might be a strategy for creating a positive sex industry, but we whores and all our supporters, including sex-positive feminists, must ask it continually. Abundant and accurate sex information, as I noted above, is a key determinant.
And while I maintain that it should be everyone’s right to do sex work, I hope people will consider their motives for it whether they are thinking about entering the sex industry or are already a veteran. It is never too late for anyone to begin to root out his or her sex-negativity, and the whores who haven’t done so – those whose damaged lives and horror stories are so eagerly pointed to by the anti-sex-work activists, and even those who disrespect their clients’ desires – may lack the most important qualifications for the job. It is the responsibility of the culture to work on its negative attitudes about sex and us and our work; but it is whores’ responsibility to work on our negative attitudes about ourselves.
The movement for sex workers’ rights should acknowledge that we have professional responsibilities and should assist every whore in meeting them. Giving sexuality, the basis of our trade, the respect it deserves must be foremost among these. In fact, as of this writing the North American Task Force on Prostitution has a subcommittee that is developing a code of ethics for whores.
Women and men who do sex and sexual entertainment for a living are targeted by laws as well as social opprobrium, and so are our clients and customers – though the latter form a shadowy, hard-to-recognize army.We are regarded more as outlaws than they are, and this can be one of our strengths:seeing, often with the support of other sex workers, that we constitute a group with different sexual norms, oppressed because of these differences, is the first step toward embracing radical politics and understanding that we are only one group out of many that have been culturally labeled and mistreated.A feminist analysis, too, helps us see ourselves as a group with shared circumstances, one for whom gender is by no means irrelevant.Certainly, we should have pride in ourselves and hopefully in what we do, and sex radical politics, along with a sex-positive belief system and a sex-positive feminist analysis, can go a long way toward ensuring that we develop that pride.
There is no sexual majority, although the whole society conspires to behave as though there were.Our clients – mostly married heterosexual men who show an illusory exterior of “normalcy” (whatever that useless concept means) – are also cross-dressers, anally erotic, bisexual, fetishistic, wrapped up in wild fantasies no traditional heterosexual marriage could ever contain.And what the “poor abused whores” lobby will never tell you is that many sex workers, too, are fetishistic, sexually curious, nonmonogamous by nature, and exhibitionistic, delighting in the secret proof our profession provides us that restrictive sexual mores are rupturing everywhere.
No one should ever, by economic constraint or any kind of interpersonal force, have to do sex work who does not like sex, who is not cut out for a life of sexual generosity (however high the fee charged for it).Wanting to make a lot of money should not be the only qualification for becoming a whore.We in this profession swim against the tide of our culture’s inability to come to terms with human sexual variety and desire, its very fear of communicating about sex in an honest and nonjudgemental way.We need special qualities, or at the very least we need a way of thinking that lets us retain our self-esteem when everyone else, especially do-gooders, would like to undermine it.
Activist whores teach, among other things, a view of our culture’s sexual profile that differs from traditional normative sexuality.Every whore embodies this difference each time s/he works.It is time for all whores to embrace this difference, to become ambassadors for sex and gratification.The politics of being a whore do not differ markedly from the politics of any other sexually despised group.We must include radical sexual politics in our agenda, becoming defenders of sex itself.Our well being and our defense depend on it.
Inviting Feminism into Bed with Us
And in the end, what does this have to do with feminism?
Today, mainstream feminism is a site for anti-whore activism, a locus for demagogues like Andrea Dworkin, Catharine MacKinnon, and Kathleen Barry to agitate for the abolition of our livelihoods and to lobby for our silencing.Ordinary feminist women are often swayed by their rhetoric and may have no opportunity to hear our side of the story.(Certainly every letter I’ve ever sent to Ms. has gone unpublished.)We have learned to our dismay that a woman’s feminism is no guarantee she’ll be open to sex radical thought; sometimes, sad to say, the opposite is true.Whores make other traditional feminists defensive about issues of sexual stigma, boundaries, and the nature of women’s sexual relationships with men.However, we could equally powerfully raise consciousness around these issues, since sex-positive whores have learned to sexually negotiate at the intersection of our clients’ desires, our limits and boundaries, and with regards to issues of safety and emotional well-being.Were we to be acknowledged by orthodox feminists as the experts we are, our voices could help push the feminist analysis of sex in positive, productive directions.This could only strengthen feminism’s appeal, since sexuality is such a powerful, and often problematic, issue in so many women’s – and men’s – lives.If feminism were to take seriously my question about what separates the experiences of women who hate sex work from those who thrive doing it, would that not have profound implications for the lives and sexual strategies of ordinary women?
Further, taking whores – whores, not just “degraded” ex-whores – seriously would support a feminist claim that is at the moment fatuous:that feminists care about the experience of all women and are open to learning from the experience of all women.Whores are only one of a multitude of groups who do not get an open-minded hearing in mainstream feminism today.
It can be argued that whores labor on the front lines of patriarchy.Feminists really ought to be more interested in the things we see, hear, and experience there.Sex-positive feminists are, of course, and support the issues we consider important, including improved working conditions, safety, and freedom from harassment.They, unlike so many orthodox feminists, understand that we do not consider our work itself a form of sexual harassment; that many of the abuses committed within the sex industry have little to do, in fact, with sexuality; that we are not selling ourselves or our bodies (a reprehensible turn of phrase repeated, often as not, by feminists, who ought to have more concern for the power of language to shape reality) any more than does any other worker under capitalism; sex-positive feminists remember that any worker under capitalism is subject to mistreatment. [Note: My emphasis added here, for the benefit of you fellow leftists out there who will deny any concerns about economic discrimination. -- Anthony]
They understand that we value our work when it allows us autonomy, free time, and a comfortable income; we often like living outside the narrow circle society circumscribes of ladylike behavior; we are not “good girls,” nor do we aspire to be; and we relish the opportunity our work provides us to learn secrets, to support our clients’ forays away from traditional masculine sexuality, to transgress restrictive boundaries and rebel against the rigid limitations created by our own fear of sex.
To what degree is the failure of mainstream feminists to educate themselves about us a result of their fear of sex and/or of being labeled a whore?Like many feminists’ antipathy toward lesbianism, this is a feminist issue with implications far beyond the politics of sex work.
Sex-positive feminist whores invite all women to consider these issues, confront their own whorephobia, and learn from us.
It seems that every year or so, someone who is supposed to be on the right side of the sex debate needs to be educated on the basic facts about the term “sex positivity”.
Like, for instance, that it is NOT the polar opposite of “sex negativity”, or a mere turn of phrase used to condemn.
Or..that it encompasses the acknowledgement of ALL sexual experiences — good, bad, beautiful, ugly, mundane, or profane.
Or..that it is not only “grab your cocks and doff your jocks” or “hook up with as many people as possible”, but simply respect the experiences of those who might just like sex more than you do. (And, for those of us who might be of the latter, those who don’t.)
It seems like a no-brainer to say this, but sometimes it has to be said out loud, because nearly every month, someone who should know better always seems to allow presumptions and assumptions about “sex positivity” being nothing more than “fuck ‘em and leave ‘em”.
Or worse yet…allow their sites to become the messenger of outright antisex prejudice.
Unfortunately, Zinnia Jones — atheist/gay/transgender activist, YouTube warrior, and on most issues a proven progressive — decided to jump to the other side this week.
Basically, she got her girlfriend “Heather” to post a “guest editorial” video at her YouTube channel (with the transcript posted at Zinnia’s blog as well) addressing the fundamental differences between “sex-positive feminism” and the antipornography feminist opposition.
Problem was, though, Heather’s comments weren’t quite so even handed as she thought.
Here’s the original video, as posted to Zinnia’s YT channel:
For something that is supposed to be a balanced assessment, it sure seems to be tilted heavily towards the antiporn side, isn’t it??
Other YouTubers, such as Divinity33372 and FeministWhore and BobChaos23 have responded vigorously to Heather’s nonsense (their response vids will appear here anon), but I thought that a full detailed response here is also needed….especially since Zinnia has attempted to pooh-pooh critics of Heather by reducing them to the “Only sex workers can comment on sex worker issues?? Pshaw!!” card.
Wrong, ZJ…it’s not about the messenger, its the message.
Which I will now prove with a through fisking of Heather’s message. (Yeah, it’s been a while, but why should Gail Dines and Shelley Lubben get all the fun??)
Sex positive feminism is a relatively new movement in feminism which originated in the 1990s. It arose as a reactionary movement in direct opposition both to millennia-long patriarchal and usually religious movements against specifically women having sex, and opposition to second-wave feminists’ anti-pornography viewpoints. It is the idea that a woman’s sexual liberation is central to women’s liberation as a whole; that a woman’s freedom must include the freedom to have sex whenever, however, and with whomever she likes. Parallel goals include recognizing different kinds of beauty, and celebrating various sexualized expressions of beauty, masculine, feminine, and everywhere in between, including pornography and sex work.
Wrong right off the bat, Heather. The first group to call themselves “sex-positive feminists” came up in the mid 1980s, out of resistance to the efforts of the original antipornography feminist movement led by Andrea Dworkin and Catherine MacKinnon and Kathleen Barry and Shelia Jefferys. They were people like Gayle Rubin, Amber Hollibaugh, Pat Califia, Alice Echols and Carol Queen, and the first true manifesto of that movement was an essay titled “Thinking Sex” that Rubin wrote for an anthology called Pleasure and Danger: Exploring Female Sexuality in 1986. I know this because as a library rat attending both Southern University and the University of Southwestern Louisiana (now University of Louisiana at Lafayette), I used to read and sneak off copies of Rubin’s essay. So..not quite the “baby” movement you pretend to dismiss.
And also, Heather…most of us who call ourselves “sex-positive feminists” do agree about women having the right to have sex “whenever, however, and with whomever she likes”. What you miss is that we also fundamentally believe that women should have as much a right to say “Hell to the NO” if she does NOT want to have sex whenever she doesn’t want, or with someone she doesn’t particularly like, or at any particular time. It is as much about saying “No” as it is about saying “Yes”, and it’s essentially respecting the autonomy of a woman’s choices and decisions.
But why is Heather so obsessed with the “sex positives only want to have lots of sex” meme? Let’s read on to the next paragraph:
Opponents of sex positive feminism, sometimes derisively referred to as “sex-negative feminists,” argue that pornography objectifies women, sex work keeps women second-class and in a great deal of danger, and that the sex positive movement is not actually feminist but a disguised extension of male privilege – a movement which overwhelmingly makes colorful excuses for the objectification of women and favors men’s dicks. Sex positive feminists are sometimes derisively referred to as “fun-feminists.”
Yeah….it’s so “derisive” to refer to those like Gail Dines or Shelley Lubben or Melissa Fairley who would use the power of the state to smear and condemn and slut-shame women who choose to have more sex than they would allow as “sex-negative”. Of course, that doesn’t prevent Heather from dealing out the antiporn talking points and the old “fun feminists” and “favors men’s dicks” slams..because when it’s done from her side, it’s just brilliant analysis, not hateful smearing.
For the sake of simplicity, I’ll refer to those on the feminist side of the opposition to the sex positive movement as anti-pornography. The division of feminism into sex-positive and anti-pornography feminism began in the 1990s and persists through today, and like any radical movement in its adolescence, sex positive feminism has brought enthusiastic and idealistic attention to some important issues – and has some glaring blemishes on its face.
For the sake of simplicity, indeed….because to Heather (and, by extension, Zinnia), only antiporn femininsts can be true feminists. And of course, only the “pro-porn” side has blemishes….the censorship and the intimidation and the collusion with the antifeminist Right on the antiporn side is just…well, a side show strategy.
And also…how lovely that the “sex-positive feminist movement” is the one labeled as “radical” and in its “adolescence”, even though it has endured for well over 30 years now. Considering how antiporn feminists have assumed for themselves the label of “radical feminism” for the past 40 or so years, one can wonder where Heather has been.
Sex positive feminism has been a positive force in the acceptance of queer sexuality. The movement places heavy focus on the acceptance and inclusion of different sexual orientations and gender identities, which was long, long overdue. It is also inarguably important that women be able to enjoy the freedom of having sex with whomever they want and whenever they want to do it. For too long over too many thousands of years, women’s sexuality has been institutionally controlled. Only recently has western culture stopped actually killing or shunning women for having extramarital sex, and there are still exceptions. Some eastern cultures still mutilate women’s genitals to keep their sexual expression in check. There is definitely a place for sex positive discussion in the gender equality movement.
Gee, Heather….thanks, I guess. Of course, as Divinity has stated, it is also sex-positive feminists and sex worker activists who have been at the forefront of transgendered rights, while most of the more devout antiporn “feminist” activists have been the most lacking, if not on occasion the most prejudiced. But, can’t give the sluts that much credit, because that would really screw up your “balanced” assessment…right??
Oh….and if you are going to call out sex pozzies for their elitism, Heather, it would really be a good idea not to practice elitism in your own analysis. I mean…”Eastern cultures”?? You do know that male genital mutilation is still quite popular in the US, right??
At the core of the rift between sex positive and anti-pornography feminism is their interpretations of what constitutes empowerment and oppression in the larger arena of female sexuality, from high heels and lipstick to submissives in sub/dom relationships to sex workers. Simply put, while anti-pornography feminists tend to view socialized aspects of female sexuality as coercion until proven innocent, sex-positive feminists see most of it as consent until proven guilty.
Of course, makeup and body modification has been around for millennia, long before the first porn movies were ground out of San Francisco grindhouses in the early 1970′s, and well before camcorders, VCR’s, and the Internet allowed sexually explicit media to become accessible to a larger audience. So, how is this exactly a “sex positive” versus “antiporn feminist” issue??
The anti-pornography crowd, for example, will often argue that high heels, miniskirts, and makeup are uncomfortable, expensive, and in some cases near-crippling, and that to call them empowering expressions of femininity is disingenuous and insulting. Sex positive feminists might argue that high heels are hot and if women choose to wear them, then they ought not be shamed either by agents of the patriarchy wishing to devalue them due to their visible desire for sex, or by their sisters in feminism who would take something as benign as an article of clothing and claim that it was oppressing women. After all, heels make their calves look good.
OK…so high heels, tank tops, bare midriffs, and miniskirts aren’t for everyone. Anyone who knows any credible “sex-positive feminist” who has even began to suggest that people be required to wear such material against their will under punishment of law, please raise your hand.
Again, the point is NOT that wearing high heels is sexy; the point is that women who choose on their own free will to wear such heels and miniskirts for the purpose of desiring sex from wiling and consenting men should not be condemned or prejudged (or abused or raped, for that matter). Which is EXACTLY what most of the most strident antiporn feminists do all the time…and what Heather is doing right now.
The same goes with things such as pornography and sex work, where anti-pornography feminists claim that a monetary contract for sex is oppressive and dangerous to women (and men, but disproportionately women), sex positive feminists claim that women can consent to these things as much as they can consent to sex without pay, or as much as they can consent to any other sort of work that pays them, and the only difference between getting paid to be a secretary and getting paid to be a sex worker is that sex outside of marriage is considered by the patriarchy to be improper and debasing for women.
While sex positive feminists certainly have a point by saying that women should be considered able to consent to sex in all contexts and can even consent to wearing things traditionally labeled sexy, and while they definitely have an argument that women should not be shamed or devalued because they look sexy or have sex for work, there are significant problems with these arguments.
“A point”?!?!? The ability to give and deny consent isn’t just an afterthought, Heather; it’s an essential part of female autonomy and equality. Why are you so willing to constrain women’s choices in the sexual arena, but no where else??
Full gender equality does not yet exist, and many of us are hesitant to join in enthusiastically on current ideals of sexiness in the contexts of interpersonal relationships, feminine presentation, and especially commerce. While sex positive feminists claim to be challenging those ideals, they are only doing so inasmuch as they intend to add to them with things not previously considered sexy (for example, fat acceptance). While there is certainly a place for that, there is also a pervasive and purposeful push for acceptance of the current ideals if that’s your preference. The idea that any sexual preference whatsoever is legitimate and natural, and is probably only considered bad because patriarchy, is to deny how overwhelmingly the current ideals benefit heterosexual men at the expense of the rest of us. How awkward and out of place would it be to hear a heterosexual man say that he was not in fact oppressed or anything, but simply wanted to burn his hair with styling tools, then put on those crippling shoes, revealing short shorts, and daily face paint because he thinks it’s sexy and therefore women think it’s sexy, and he likes women and sex? No one would mistake such an individual for empowered. If it seems absurd to expect from men, then it ought to seem absurd to expect from women.
Oh, hold up here. Is Heather saying that we shouldn’t accept personal choice and consensual adult relationships because “they benefit heterosexual men at the expense of the rest of us”??? You mean, like, lesbian relationships are harmed because porn is legal? Like, sex pozzies are responsible if a man decides to cross dress and calls it “empowering” for him?? Funny, but I didn’t think that it was Heather’s call to determine for other individuals what they consider “empowering” or “degrading”.
Furthermore, one woman’s discomfort is another woman’s fetish, and only someone hell bent on imposing her own myopic sexual tastes on others through shame and fear would dare to imply that a crossdressing man or a woman “dressing the slut” is such a cosmic threat to women as a whole.
Further to the point, this focus on expanding the ideals of beauty and sexiness so that everyone can have a slice to further empowerment for women is doing exactly the opposite of what feminists have been working toward for decades, and not for nothing. It keeps us locked in this asinine prison of a value system that teaches women they must be aesthetically pleasing to be sexually desirable and sexually desirable to be whole. Again, how awkward would it seem to base a movement on reassuring men that they’re all handsome? Or, to use a stereotype more often associated with men’s desirability, to assure them that no matter how little money they have, they’re rich so long as they’re confident?
Ahhh..the old “them damn sex-pozzies only want to put out for men and kneel to men’s dicks!!!!” card. The notion that many women may want to dress sexy for themselves because it makes THEM feel good about themselves seems to have bypassed Heather’s synapeses. I guess that women discovering their clitori and the joys of self-induced orgasms through masturbation are simply the dupes of male pleasure, too??
And how nice for Heather to riff that sex-positive feminism entraps women in “patriarchy” by implying that only sexiness will get them over. Never mind that antiporn feminism continues to reinforce the same tired traditional stereotype that an assertively sexual woman is merely a vassal of men and a traitor of women, deserving of shame and abuse?
However, the biggest and most shameful crime of the sex positive movement is the cherrypicking of testimonials from sex workers of all sorts – from nude models to actors in pornography to exotic dancers to escorts – as though middle-class, healthy, educated agents of gender equality made up a significant portion of the industry’s representatives. The stories of hundreds of thousands of women who worked in the sex industry and experienced emotionally painful objectification, dehumanizing treatment, addictions, and abuse should not be dismissed as problems that can be erased by simply erasing pimps, and cannot be replaced with the assertion that sex workers are adults and therefore have agency and consent freely or that porn is healthy. Safe working environments and emotionally healthy consent simply are not components of most sex workers’ realities. Sex workers are overwhelmingly female and overwhelmingly unsafe. Scrawling the word “empowerment” over the sex industry is by far the sex positive movement’s largest insult toward women.
Yup…save the biggest damn lie for last. Heather may have missed the memo that plenty of sex worker organizations and activist sex workers have been attempting for decades to reform and transform the “sex industry” to make it more condusive for women and men; and that sex positives are more than aware of the pitfalls and dangers that lurk within doing sex work. If the environment for sex workers isn’t too healthy right now, it’s no help that antiporn abolitionists would rather wipe sex work off the map and undercut those efforts.
But, it’s still a baby. Maybe it will grow up someday.
Actually, it’s already fully grown and mature…which is more than I can say about Heather’s analysis.
I could say more, but I’ll let Div and this other active sex worker named “Amyi” take it away, since they say it better than I ever could.
Ask any successful businessperson what is the most important factor in selling his/her business, and he will respond usually with the basic three-word edict:
“Location, location, location.”
The best advertisement in the world will make no bit of good if no one sees it, and to maximize your potential sales audience by going where they are and grabbing the microphone and promoting your product makes all the difference in the world.
Some companies are so wealthy they can literally buy their own audience. Most bizmen/bizwomen, though, must rely of strategic placement to put out the word for their product.
And when the product happens to be adult sexual entertainment, sometimes you must rely on sheer luck or just skilled targeting.
And sometimes, your hard work does indeed pay off big time.
As it did yesterday with Vicky Vette.
If you are not in the world of adult entertainment, you might not know who the hell Vicky Vette is, so let me give you the abridged bio version.
Once upon a time, a gorgeous Norwegian-born and Canada-raised woman who had spent pretty much her entire early adult life in various middle- to upper-management/retail — including even selling houses — decided to follow her inner slut, her bodacious rack, and her throbbing clit into the wild world of explicit adult entertainment. From then on, she moved to hardcore modeling, to active porn performing, and to live feature dancing, rounding up nearly 300 or so video credits and a reputation for consistency and work ethic as well as for eternal horniness…and all of this in her late 30′s and 40′s!!
Then, having tired of some of the drama and potential drawbacks of relying solely on video filming, she “retired” from movies and focused her efforts on content for her home website, VickyatHome.com (warning, site is NSFW for explicit sexual content). Using all the tools of marketing and corporate saavy she had accumulated, as well as her penchant for honest fan interaction, she was able to transform her site into one of the most popular adult websites around. She then used that springboard as a means to launch her own network of adult websites, the Vette Nation Army (again, NSFW), where she gathered some of the more sucessful “MILF” performers together to share her high standards of fan interaction. Her network now boasts of 12 active members, a devout and large membership base that has consistently kept her site at the top of the rankings, and the reputation of being one of the hardest working women in adult webhosting.
That, in a nutshell, is Vicky Vette.
(Disclosure alert here: I happen to have been a fan and follower of Vicky from the beginning of her porn career; having joined her website since 2005…and I am a moderator for many of her Yahoo fan groups and her members’ message board. Don’t let my bias get in the way of the story, though.)
One of her greatest weapons in her War of Mass Seduction is Twitter. You wouldn’t know it now, but she had to be persuaded to even use the service when she first discovered it…she was more on MySpace back then. Now, she has worked Twitter so well that she is part of an elite group of adult superstars with more than 200,000 followers (currently at 218+K as of this moment). And, she’s willing to share the wealth so readily that three other VNA featured stars — Sara Jay, Gabby Quinteros, and Bobbi Eden — have eclipsed the 100K follower mark themselves.
(Yes, I know, Clones, that is still dwarfed by the top celebrity Twitterers whose follow base can get into the MILLIONS…but we are talking about the ADULT industry here.)
What does all this have to do with $40 blowjobs and the payroll tax cut wars?
Well, you can thank the White House, CNN, and the Funny Or Die website for that.
Of course, the big political story today was the continuing battle between the Obama White House and the Congressional Republicans/Tea Partiers over extending the payroll tax cut enacted in 2010 for another year. (The GOTP tonight blinked, accepting a vote to extend the cut and some unemployment benefits for two months so that the next Congress could do battle.) But, as of this morning, things were still fluid.
For once, the Democrats, who usually are the ones to cave in to the demands of the Repubs/Tea Partiers, decided to stand their ground on principle and defend the middle- to working-class tax cut, saying that the Repubs were only opposed to it because they wanted tax relief only for the wealthy at the expense of the rest of America.
As part of that defense, the White House, whom has mastered the art of using Twitter hashtags for exploiting the online zeitgeist, had come up with the meme of #40dollars, which represents the $40 per year that average working Americans would lose in their paychecks if the payroll tax was restored. (Just do a search on Twitter using the hashtag #40dollars to see how popular that became.)
Here’s their opening tweet in the series:
OK…pretty mundane story, right??
CNN must have thought so, because they used a segment of their afternoon news show, CNN Newsroom, to discuss the standoff with Republican Congressman Fred Upton (Michigan).
During the interview, Upton and the CNN panelist discussed the White House public media campaign to sell the tax cut using Twitter, while in the background, tweets using the hashtag #40dollars was scrolling across your TV screen.
Which is how, if you weren’t quite looking, you might have missed this tweet:
Now, it only crossed the screen for about two or three seconds before the cameras dissolved back to the panelists….which is unfortunate, because if the directors had held on for just a tad longer, they would have discovered this tweet:
You could say that Vicky was simply having a bit of fun with her followers…but then again, last year sister VNA girl Bobbi Eden was dead serious about giving free hummers to all of her followers if her native Norway team won the World Cup soccer finals. (Tragically, they lost to England.)
Naturally it was just dumb luck that Vicky happened to be posting a naughty tweet using the #40dollars hashtag just as CNN was reporting on how Twitter was being used to direct the debate.
Yeah, right…sure it was…she more than likely planned it all along.
The point is, though, it worked…but would it turn from a molehill into a mountain??
This is where the amazingness took over. CNN clearly didn’t intend for its viewers to read these tweets. It was just a visual aide to show that this thing was, in fact, happening on Twitter. They scrolled quickly down the screen for a second or two before getting back to the shot of the interview. And if you weren’t paying attention, you would have missed it. But if you thought something felt a bit off for second, and you rewound your DVR back to the moment right before they cut back to Fred Upton, you would have seen this:
Let’s zoom in a little on that second to last tweet.
YESSSSSS! CNN! They showed a tweet from a porn star named Vicky Vette participating in the 40-dollar-hashtag. “If every single one of my followers gives me #40dollars ~~ I will blow you all rt.” The “rt” at the end is perfection. And for one fleeting moment on Wednesday, daytime CNN was perfection as well.
Remember, Clones….porn starlets normally don’t get anywhere close to CNN unless they are either dead from HIV/AIDS, converted born-agains like Shelley Lubben reflecting on how abused and raped they were, or Bree Olson playing one of Charlie Sheen’s “goddesses”.Not even Larry Flynt can buy this kind of positive spin..and yet the Commander in Briefs was able to kick the sumbitch down with one strategic hashtag.
With that one tweet, Vicky Vette may have done more to enhance her bottom line, and the positive side of adult, then anyone this side of Nina Hartley has even done. (Apologies to Stormy Daniels, who did a decent job of dispatching Gail Dines in a porn debate on Dr. Drew’s “talk show”…but that was more isolated.)
If there is anything such as followup or justice in this world, CNN should give Vicky a segment interview to explain herself. After she blows up even more than she has now, though, I’m sure they won’t find it hard to locate her. She’s the blonde with the body for sin, the brain for business, and the heart for the long haul.
Just when you thought she couldn’t go beyond herselves, Monica Foster (nee’ Alexandra Mayers) lowers the crazaa bar once again.
Apparently, getting her ass kicked — figuratively and intellectually speaking — by Michael Whiteacre and especially by Sean Tompkins of The REAL Pornwikileaks (not to be confused with the original Pornwikileaks that Monica is apparently attempting to revive to continue the Donny Long tradition of smearing anyone who disses her) has only intensified the nuclear explosions affecting her synapses.
The problem is, unfortunately, that rather than face the music and her critics head on like a real woman should, Monica has decided to aim and fire her nukes at a woman whom simply has done nothing to deserve it. Worse yet, she has gone to even threatening her family with not-so-thinly veiled death threats.
The victim of Monica’s cyberbullying is none other than Lydia Lee, formerly known and loved and respected as Julie Meadows.
The grand irony of Foster’s vendetta is that Julie was one of the first women to actually attempt to aid and comfort Monica when she was apparently at her worst state. But that was when Monica was so busy playing both sides of the PWL street, sending out bogus racist messages and even going so far as to fake a plea for help from a potential suicide attempt.
(You will remember the supposed Twitter war that she had with “Darrah Ford” over her alleged opposition back then to Lubben’s ministry….but then you wonder why they never communicated directly with each other. Could it be that “Darrah” was herself another one of Monica’s personality inventions?? Until she makes a comeback, we’ll never know, shall we??)
Of course, Lydia/Julie and her husband Doug has been one of the most vocal critics of the Ministress and her pumped up holy roller antiporn ministry; with plenty of former Lubbenites going to her to reveal their inside stories on the abusive behavior just underneath the Godly surface of the Pink Cross Foundation. (The latest whistleblower, “Kristenye”, has her story documented here.) Between that and Sean’s revelations that Monica wasn’t the angelic “victim” of Donny Long’s bigotry but an active participant in all the bloddy madness, there’s enough damning evidence to unravel Monica for years.
So what does a crazy person do when her ass is caught in a lie?? Simple…she simply goes on a Twitter rant of epic proportions, filled with all sorts of conspiracies, slanders, and holy references.
Which is exactly what Monica Foster did this past Tuesday.
Julie has reposted the entirity of Monica’s full metal twattage at her blog, and rather than repost all of it here, I’d rather respect her wishes and her copyright and just refer y’all over there. (Of course, you can also simply visit Foster’s Twitter page (@MonicaFoster) and view the madness for yourself, since Monica kinda forgot to privatize her tweets, and thusly has made everything public for anyone to view.) Suffice it to say, though, that Monica covers plenty of ground….here are the main supplementary points
1) The “LA porn industry” is un-Godly, and needs to be razed and burned to the ground. (This is an extension to her earlier belief that a dark Satanic force rules over Porn Valley. Funny, but it didn’t prevent her from making money as an escort…Lenny Dykstra’s bounce check notwithstanding.)
2) Monica is the apparent victim of an “anti-American” terrorist cabal within the “LA porn industry”, led apparently by Diane Duke of the Free Speech Coalition and porn producer/director Will Ryder, with Julie Meadows and Michael Whiteacre and Sean Tompkins as the lead jihadists, so to speak. (Mike’s devout Judaism doesn’t get in the way of his “terrorist” tactics, of course.)
3) Lydia Lee has been promoted in this lunatic conspiracy theory of Monica’s…once, she was simply a “fat bored housewife”; now, she’s a “cocaine whore” and a “deadbeat mom” who’s being “pimped out” by hubby Doug and who is just jealous because Shelley Lubben is revealing the “truth”.
4) MIke Whiteacre (liberally referenced by his real name, which I will NOT reveal here) is in fact an “antiporn superhero” who is in fact revealing just why Monica is totally right about the evil of the porn industry. That, and he’s also an Israeli “terrorist”.
5) Monica also has created new imaginary friends — namely “Francesco Barbarino” (Vinny’s long lost son, I guess) and “Dion from Combat Zone” — whom she openly hopes pays all her “friends” (read that to mean, her critics) a visit for dinner…with cement shoes as the requisite attire, if you catch her drift.
But wait…this gets better. Much, much, much better.
Obviously not satisfied with waiting for Francesco and Dion to do their thing, Monica teamed up with another Lubben fan girl and ex-porn/ex-escort strumpet, Desi Foxx (nee’ Diana Gundenson), who promptly posted a couple of “editorial cartoons” depicting their desired solution to all the crisis…mostly involving the MInistress driving a bus over her critics. (The offending toons were also captured by Julie and posted at her blog, I recommend you go there if your stomach is strong enough.)
Desi Foxx, of course, you know as the woman whose medical records were pilfered last year from the AIM database and released to yet another one of Donny Long’s sites; remember that she and her daughter Elli Foxx (they worked together as a tag team as working prostitutes, and even made porn together as a mother/daughter team) sued AIM in what amounted to be a PR stunt for the AIDS Healthcare Foundation’s vendetta against AIM and for mandatory condoms for all porn shoots.
Oh..and then there’s also Monica’s counter to Sean Tompkins’ counterattacks revealing the hypocrisy and outright brutality of Foster’s attacks on Julie Meadows and her family. When Sean used the pages of TRPWL to reveal the names and checkered history of some members of Monica’s family (namely, her sister and her mother), Monica responded by creating a Blogger website strategically named Pornwikileaks.com (and another faked up blog called “Porn in the Valley”) from which she spewed more of the same crapola about being “terrorized”. She’s also created a “fan page” dedicated to smearing Michael Whiteacre, too.
Now, Sean and Michael are big boys who know how to defend themselves against idiocy, and who are capable of beating fools at their own game; that’s how Sean and the crew were able to take down the original PWL and Donny Long’s bullshittery. Julie, to her credit, while stunned enough at the turncoat behavior of Monica at first, has managed to retain her classic grace and class; but even she understands the value of a good counterattack, because she and Doug have promised legal action against Monica. Considering how protective Doug is of Lydia, I wouldn’t be surprised that other, more earthy, means of protection is being enacted as well.
Perhaps the real threat of jail time will finally enable the sensible portions remaining in Monica Foster’s brain to finally kick in and back down from her nonsense before real people get hurt. Perhaps, there is still enough good will left in Monica that she will realize that her impressionist act of being a “Christian porn star” just isn’t compatible with her behavior and actions, and that she will actually live the word and walk the talk of a true Christian.
Perhaps…it will snow in South Louisiana, too. I wish we would be that lucky.
Blowback can be a real bitch, Monica. One last time: Check yourself before you wreck yourself….and others.
“People always say to me, ‘The camera doesn’t lie’. Well, people can lie with a camera.” – former NBC News anchor/correspondent/journalist Linda Ellerbee
Let’s say, for instance, that you are a prominent antipornography activist who has been riding high off the profits of those you have maligned and abused for so long. Yet you face real trouble on the horizon: the victims of your campaign have rallied and are fighting back, your empire is crumbling from within as former members bail out on you and expose your inner workings; and your attempts at censorship have only resulted in restraining orders lobbed right back at you. How, exactly, do you rally yourself and your troops??
Well…if you happen to be Shelley Lubben, you simply make yet another one of your craptacular propaganda videos essentially linking porn with rape, and then hope that the blind outrage supersedes any attempt at reasonable logic.
Which is exactly what the Ministeress attempted to do today.
For what it is worth, this is the latest video that appeared over at Shelley’s YouTube channel, interjecting featured comments by Lubben at various venues with what she labeled as “shocking footage of ‘porn sex’” involving what appeared to be some very abusive and outright degrading depictions of sex scenes being shot.
One “scene” depected a woman clearly distressing from doing what appears to be an anal scene without any benefit of lube or desire; with the woman screaming, “It hurts so much!! It hurts so much!!” Another scene — complete with the required subtitles, just so that you get the point — showed another female performer raging at her fellow mate for attempting to put something in her that she didn’t want, ultimately resulting in said woman pushing said man off her and getting off the couch, cussing and fussing all the way.
There was also a still screen shot of yet another woman with a man’s arms around her, apparently being choked, with an expression of what appears to be utter pain and dread on her face.
And through it all, Shelley was doing voice overs and throwing up her usual flak about how this is exactly what the porn industry is really about, and how everything else is simply the propaganda used to hide “the truth” that PORN KILLS!!!!!!!!!!!!
In short, it was the usual Lubbenesque party line, kicked up to Emeril Lagasse notches unknown.
If you weren’t a regular follower of Shelley and her antics, you might have been convinced.
Strangely enough, it was enough to convince even a pronounced critic of Lubben, Julie Meadows, who posted the Lubben clip as part of a blog post where she expressed her disgust for what she saw, and challenged Shelley to name names and scenes. (Julie has taken to copyrighting her posts now in order to protect herself, so I won’t provide any quotes without her approval; you’ll just have to go over there for now and read for yourself.)
Considering that Julie has had her own run-ins with asshole producers and shifty smash-mouth “gonzo horror gothic” producers like Max Hardcore, it’s perfectly understandable why she reacted the way she did. And it did seem that the deliberate manipulation of emotions intended by the video would have a payoff.
And then, the truth intervened to bust the bubble of lies…with the prick provided by Michael Whiteacre, that old nemesis that haunts Shelley Lubben the way stank used to haunt privvies.
First, Whiteacre brought some much needed background context into the debate, including Lubben’s prior attempts at chacanery and distortion:
To the best of my knowledge, that is NOT secret “unreleased” Behind-the-Scenes footage. I wonder what the Behind-The-Scenes footage of those scenes really show — like, perhaps, that the performers were unharmed and pleased with the scene? Lubben was 100% wrong in her criticism of Anna Span’s video (that the performer “hated it” and was obviously in pain). The real BTS footage showed a performer who herself suggested the action in the scene that Lubben assumed was abusive, and was elated before, during and after.
Video like that can be edited a hundred different ways. We don’t know — absent context — whether the performers were coached to play up the “abusive” pro emotional aspects. What I do know is there’s not a single reputable producer in the industry who would release something like that without also releasing the BTS footage showing consent as a CYA move.
I’ve seen lots of contestants cry on camera during various intense “challenge” TV shows, and on Fear Factor. I’d like to see a video compilation of moments of extreme TV show contestants breaking down from strain, anxiety, heartbreak or exhaustion on camera. “Shocking Footage of Contestants Abused on Extreme TV.”
And then Michael did what few of those who follow antiporn extremist tactics are willing to do: he actually beat Shelley to the punch and actually sourced the video clips used by Lubben in her video. The results??
I have just been informed that the scenes in this video are all stolen from efukt clips. The content is from Duke Skywalker’s “Facial Abuse” and JM Productions “Porn Most Outrageous Outtakes.” This is not “secret footage the porn industry doesn’t want you to see.”
One clip is “Whoregasm” Date: 9.6.11, from JM’s “Porn’s Most Outrageous Outtakes Vol. 2″; another is “Dude Upstages Everyone at Gangbang” Date: 8.3.11; the “Facial Abuse” scene is from “Pornstar Meltdown” 8.21.09 – her name is “Ellie.”
Oh, big surprise. Shocking, indeed. Shelley STEALS clips from other sources and then alters them without the original approval to serve her agenda?? Where’s YouTube on this?? Call the DMCA cops!!!
But wait, it gets better. The actual site where those clips were stolen from is called efukt.com (warning, very NSFW link), which brands itself as an “adult humor site” that pretty much panders to the same male adolescent “Bevis and Butt-head” audience that Larry Flynt used to pander to in the old days of HUSTLER, with the “Chester the Molester” toons and the scatalogical humor and the “politically incorrect” off color bantering.
But the most important thing about those clips?? Most of them were outtakes. OUTTAKES. In fact, one of the principle videos from which these clips were produced was titiled: Porn’s Most Dangerous Outtakes, Volume 2; the other video cited was a JM Productions rag titled Facial Abuse…which basically sounds like a particularly extreme gothic fetish vid.
Shocking?? Yes. Disturbing??? Definitely. The embodiment of “porn rape”?? Not so much.
And, about as representative of what really happens at porn shoots as David Duke being a civil rights activist.
Don’t get me wrong here…there are plenty of assholes and predators in adult who will stop at nothing to trick women into doing things that can be hazardous or injurous..or worse. And porn producers need to do a much better job of screening out such people.
But, if one thing can be made perfectly clear from this debacle, it is this: With Shelley Lubben, The Monstrous Lie is a feature, not a bug. If you have to depend on her to “save” porn women from themselves, then you are truly fucked. And not in the good way, either.
[This is actually a repost and an update to a "memo" I posted over at my Lady Chatterley Boudoir blog last October. I am updating it to reflect new info and how Monica Foster has now overstepped the line seperating lunacy from outright vicious bitchiness...thus deserving a far more serious reading. Updated info will appear in brackets and italicized.]
In all my years as an observer and a fan of porn and its talent, I see plenty of personalities come and go. It’s part of why I absolutely love being a fan.
I also love the fact that explicit adult media is one of the few places where people are free to let their hair down, so to speak, and reveal things about themselves that they wouldn’t even be able to get away with in “civilian” life.
But as with most renegade professions, though, you will get that special breed of personality that oversteps the line which separates eccentricity from outright lunacy, from simply being one of the only slightly abnormal freaks, to being the latest candidate for the straightjacket.
And then…there is Monica Foster, who rips the lunacy book to shreds.
(Snarky photo of Monica courtesy of Michael Whiteacre, via Sean Tompkins of TRPWL.)
For those who do not know, Monica Foster is a now former middle-grade Black porn performer whom at one time was seen as a serious reformer who wanted to improve the conditions for women getting into the industry. Heck, she even created a series and a website (GettingIntoPorn.com) in which she used her insider credentials and personal experiences to mentor young women seeking to enter the industry. She also created a complimentary site called GettingOutOfPorn.com, which offered guidance for those who wanted to get out as safely as they got in.
At one time, I considered her to be enough of a genuine person that I even included links and endorsements of her organization over at my blogs. I was under the impression that here was a serious and eloquent voice that was willing to fight the good fight from within to make the industry a safer and better place.
That was then…before I encountered the Sybll that lurked underneath the sexy chocolate covering.
[Which has now been shed by Monica in favor of the full Lizzy Borden/Michelle Bachmann ensemble.]
The first warning sign came when Monica decided to make a Federal issue out of how many porn starlets were escorting on the side, and how that was leaving porn performers open to a variety of diseases, including HIV. Of course, at the same time, Monica was herself escorting and offering “girlfriend experiences” to various rich guys. How do we know that?? Because when one particular rich guy, former pro baseballer Lenny Dykstra, solicited Monica’s…ummmm, “services” but somehow forgot to back up the check he paid her with actual funding, Monica went all ape shit upside his dome, using all the tools of her trade, including Twitter and her “Monica at Home” podcasts and blog, to light up Dykstra for bouncing his checks. (Never mind that that goes against the cardinal rule of sex work: Cash Payments ONLY. Though, I wonder if debit cards are now welcome.)
[Nothing has changed on that since then...Monica's still running smack about how escorts are destroying porn with their diseases, while still moaning about Dykstra's bounced check. Not much to see here, so I'll move on.]
OK…so maybe that’s not a good example, since Monica could claim that she’s only mentoring from bad experiences and warning people.
But, then, there is her obsession with Vanessa Blue and Michael Fattorosi.
The former is one of the premiere Black porn starlets; the latter is the former’s current significant other, and a high-falutin’ attorney who dabbles in defending adult sexual media’s legal interests (hence his former Twitter gloss @Pornlaw).
It all goes back to the bad old days of the original Pornwikileaks. No, Clones, NOT the current version that is being run splendidly by Sean Tompkins; but the original one that was essentially Donny Long’s attempt to seek revenge on the industry.
For those who remember, the original PWL was essentially a racist, homophobic, bigoted to almost neo-Nazi standards shop where Donny Long and his insider acolytes would post the most vile, hateful, and abusive rumor, as well as deliberately “out” performers using their real names, actual addresses, and even private medical records. It was ultimately shut down when some of its most prominent victims decided to use DL’s own methods against him and out him and his supporting cast.
Monica Foster’s role in all that?? Well, she claims to have been a prominent victim of Donkey Long’s aggression, complete with all the race baiting, the outing, and even the threats to her personal life. In fact, it got so bad that she even publically tweeted of committing suicide due to all the stress involved. And, she is generally credited with ultimately bringing Long down and reforming PWL away from the hate.
[Of course, we all know that Mike South, Mercedes Ashley, Michael Whiteacre, and their underling lieutenants beating Long at his own IP game bear most of the credit, and Monica was at most a loud booster.]
The problem is, though, that for someone who claims to be such a victim of the original PWL, Monica sure has a strange way of promoting them. Even with the racist attacks on her, she was still very much active in all of Long’s forums, and she even went so far as to call Long “a genius”.
[Not to mention the accusation that has now gotten around that Monica actually faked up racist smack in order to prop up her "victimhood" (see here), and even attempted to gain the original PWL database -- the one with all the phony names, racist/sexist/antiporn/gay bashing smack, and all the private medical information thieved from AIM-MED -- all in the name of "truthseeking", of course. Nothing at all to do with her, oh noes.]
As for her vendetta against Vanessa Blue and Mike Fattorosi?? Well, Monica claims that “Pornlaw” was in fact totally involved with and supportive of the original PWL’s racist assaults, because (according to her) Fattorosi often would post to the XXXFilmJobs forum (one of Long’s favored platforms for his rumor mongering), and some of his clients somehow got exempted from getting their personal information outed in the original PWL database. Vanessa Blue is attacked merely for being Fattorosi’s sig other, and for being an alleged “traitor to her race” (Blue had previously been romantically involved with Black porn megastud Lexington Steele, but they broke off acromoniously).
Then there was the Classic Epic Twitter War that ensued between Monica Foster and “Darrah Ford”; the latter being a former porn publicist/rumor specialist who adopted the gonzo style of the legendary porn gossipist Luke Ford (in fact, there is no relation).
The genesis of that particular smackfest was when Monica decided to break off her support of….yeah, her again….Shelley Lubben and the Pink Cross Foundation’s efforts to reform former porn girls through “the love of Jesus Christ”. “Darrah”, whom has now disappeared without a trace since the whole PWL drama went down, was at one time one of the loudest supporter of Lubben and her ministry, often under the supposed “feminist” drive of retaking porn from the evil male establishment. “Darrah” was also a strong supporter of the drive by the AIDS Healthcare Foundation (assisted lovingly by the Ministress) to mandate condom usage on all porn sets, while at the time, Monica was on the fence.
Once again, though, that was then. Now, it seems, Monica has reversed herself (again) and is now in near total support of Lubben, even going as far as to be fundamentally critical of those who are calling into account her distortions and outright lies. And this is even in the face of overwhelming evidence of how Lubben has used her ministry as her own personal money bank, or how she, in spite of her claims to have “saved” porn women from drug abuse, actually has enabled same abuse as a means of keeping her acolytes in line. (See Madelyne/Michelle Avanti).
How bad has it gotten?? Last year, Monica gleefully contirbuted to the documentary series developed by Michael Whiteacre and Julie Meadows, “The Devil And Shelley Lubben”, which sought to expose the contradictions and distortions of Lubben and her ministry.
Now?? She’s openly accusing Whiteacre of “stalking” and “harrassing” Lubben, and she’s publically broken off with Meadows (now using her real life given name of Lydia Lee), calling her a “fat bored housewife” who “deserves to be cheated on and to contract an STD”.
[To say that Julie Meadows has been pretty much wrecked by Monica's turncoat bitchiness is an understatement...read up here and here.]
And in case even that is not enough for you, there is Monica’s newly found friendship and alliance with Nica Noelle and January Seraph, the two principal founders of the fledgling Adult Performers Association, which claims itself to be the first organization of adult performers of its kind. Nica and January also happen to have major personal issues with both the Free Speech Coalition (the current lobbying/public information org for the industry) and its newly created STD testing group, Adult Performers Health and Safety Services (APHSS). January’s issues are mostly with the FSC’s position against the .XXX domain and the security of the APHSS database used to monitor and protect performers during the testing process; Nica’s problem is with the supposed “monopoly” that FSC/APHSS has in the process of testing, which freezes out her right to choose her own testing company. Since Monica has been a long time opponent of FSC and APHSS, and their predecessors over at AIM-MED, it makes for a natural alliance.
[More like made for an alliance....Nica has now bailed out from APA, citing "harassment" from "PWL" peeps as the reason. Probably more because she simply couldn't stand scrutiny for fellow travelling with Monica and her clown act.]
Also, there is that other bitter Twitter war ongoing between Michael Whiteacre, who happens to be one of the more tenacious defenders of FSC/APHSS, and both Nica and January, whom have also accused Whiteacre of some overly aggressive and nasty tactics of “stalking” and harrassment. Obviously, Monica has now gone all-in for the women, which dovetails quite nicely with her newly found love for Shelley Lubben.
[Oh, I haven't told you about the latest and most obscene act that Monica pulled on Sean Tompkins of TRPWL; she basically accused him of being a "pedophile" for posting pics of his daughter online....right after she basically called for her peeps to pray for his daughter's death. Right along with praying for the mass death of anyone attached to the "LA porn industry". Sure...like her God has so much time to sling lightning bolts for her. Sean's detailed the tweeterhea over at AWM/TRPWL, find it here and here.]
I believe that you get my point now, Clones. It’s one thing to change your mind and switch your views in a certain point in time. When you change your views back and forth the way Imelda Marcos changes shoes?? You might have a slight personality disorder.
Or…you just might be just plain freakin’ NUTS.
Memo, Monica: Back away from yourself. And…yourself. And…your other self.
[And while you're at it, Monica, back away from the faux Christian pornstar cliff, because if you're not careful, it will eat you up just like it's starting to consume your mentor. Two words, dearie: "You're next."]